Inconvenient Annoyances

I really, truly and completely HATE job hunting. Mere words can't explain my loathing for the whole process.

Chris has moved on to run his own business. As best friend and number one cheerleader, I couldn't be happier for him. However, that means a new boss. Only two people applied for it. One knew most of the job anyway, had taken a lot of the online courses that were job specific for the hotel, was respected by everyone, dedicated, mature, fair, organized, a people person, and wells suited for the job all the way around. The other has quit and come back 4 times, is immature, petulant, vindictive (as an employee) a slob, self centered, spoiled and definitely not boss material.... but has a degree in hospitality. Guess who got the job. Chris doesn't have a degree in hospitality, and did the job just fine, without one. We consistently ranked #1 in town as a Holiday Inn Express, over a really swanky Marriott.

Everything has changed. Hours have been cut, rules have changed, 'punishment' for not doing wrong is juvenile, there is no talking to her about anything because everything is met with 'I'm not going to argue with you', when you are simply trying to have a calm discussion, some new rules aren't even made known until they are broken.

And then there is the favoritism.. One of her friends was given a promotion that should have been mine, nevermind the fact there were 8 more people after me in seniority before her. The reason I didn't get it was because I was on holiday. Someone could have covered for the 4 days I wouldn't have been there. So now the friend is very smug around me. I could overlook that, but to deal with that, the new rules I have not been told about until I break them, the fact I'd lost my hours in one department over something the other woman in that department didn't do (and I was out of town at the time), and the fact I am now down to 26 hours a week from 37 to 40, it is all too much. I went to battle over those hours, and won them back. When she told me she didn't want to argue with me, I told her I wasn't arguing, I was having a civil, adult discussion and deserved to be heard.

I have been in management as a general manager of a Subway, assistant manager of a grocery store, and a shift manager at a Wendy's. I know how the game is to be played. She is playing the 'I'm the boss so it is all about what I want, not what is best for all' game.

Rant over, but I truly hate job hunting. Especially in winter when a lot of places are slower and not taking on.

Sorry, TamaMoo, that sounds awful! Hopefully things will turn around for the better in the new year.

My annoyance is trivial by comparison. I've been happy with our postman for years, but something has changed. Post for the flat above ours is now coming to ours and I suspect our (new?) postman doesn't fancy the extra stairs. My knee is injured and I can't do stairs, so today I marched right out and handed upstairs neighbour's post back to the postman and explained why I can't get it upstairs. I was assured no problem, he'd sort it. Neighbour stops by in the evening to see if any post ... I told him what happened ... postman never delivered it upstairs as promised! Well, didn't I feel like a 'numpty'. :-(

Neighbour was cool about it, though.

Well, didn't I feel like a 'numpty'. :-(

You didn't do anything wrong-- I see no reason for you to feel stupid about it.

I really, truly and completely HATE job hunting. Mere words can't explain my loathing for the whole process.

Chris has moved on to run his own business. As best friend and number one cheerleader, I couldn't be happier for him. However, that means a new boss. Only two people applied for it. One knew most of the job anyway, had taken a lot of the online courses that were job specific for the hotel, was respected by everyone, dedicated, mature, fair, organized, a people person, and wells suited for the job all the way around. The other has quit and come back 4 times, is immature, petulant, vindictive (as an employee) a slob, self centered, spoiled and definitely not boss material.... but has a degree in hospitality. Guess who got the job. Chris doesn't have a degree in hospitality, and did the job just fine, without one. We consistently ranked #1 in town as a Holiday Inn Express, over a really swanky Marriott.

Everything has changed. Hours have been cut, rules have changed, 'punishment' for not doing wrong is juvenile, there is no talking to her about anything because everything is met with 'I'm not going to argue with you', when you are simply trying to have a calm discussion, some new rules aren't even made known until they are broken.

And then there is the favoritism.. One of her friends was given a promotion that should have been mine, nevermind the fact there were 8 more people after me in seniority before her. The reason I didn't get it was because I was on holiday. Someone could have covered for the 4 days I wouldn't have been there. So now the friend is very smug around me. I could overlook that, but to deal with that, the new rules I have not been told about until I break them, the fact I'd lost my hours in one department over something the other woman in that department didn't do (and I was out of town at the time), and the fact I am now down to 26 hours a week from 37 to 40, it is all too much. I went to battle over those hours, and won them back. When she told me she didn't want to argue with me, I told her I wasn't arguing, I was having a civil, adult discussion and deserved to be heard.

I have been in management as a general manager of a Subway, assistant manager of a grocery store, and a shift manager at a Wendy's. I know how the game is to be played. She is playing the 'I'm the boss so it is all about what I want, not what is best for all' game.

Rant over, but I truly hate job hunting. Especially in winter when a lot of places are slower and not taking on.

Sorry to hear this Tama.  You guys had such a good gig there... it's a shame it's been jerked out from under you like that.  Any chance of going to work for Chris again in his new venture?

You didn't do anything wrong-- I see no reason for you to feel stupid about it.

Thanks, Albatross. You are right. I guess I felt stupid at the time because if I'd just held on to the neighbour's post like other times, he would have had it that evening. As it stands, he has still never received it! Ah, well.

Sorry to hear this Tama.  You guys had such a good gig there... it's a shame it's been jerked out from under you like that.  Any chance of going to work for Chris again in his new venture?

Not currently. He is starting up a physical shop for the online vape shop he had been running. Maybe when things are booming and he has a good customer base, but until then he will be running things himself.

Then today I was told by someone who heard from her that she may be pregnant, and if she is, she is going to quit to be a stay at home mom. With all the yuck and illness going around, she may just have a stomach virus, or it could be morning sickness, but she hasn't taken the test yet. If she is pregnant, and stays through her pregnancy, then she will be there less than a year and give the job up. If not, it is a matter of time, because she and her husband are trying for a child. I'm not against being a stay at home mom, because that was my plan until I found out I couldn't have kids. I just feel if you are intending to give up a huge promotion, for any reason (whether male or female) within a very short time, don't take it just so someone else can't have it.

OWYA! 
While carrying out 'quality control' on my most recent batch of Never Fail Fudge (everyone loves it and keeps requesting more!), I burned my mouth on the boiling hot mixture and now I have a huge blister on the roof of my mouth, right behind my 2 top front teeth.

OWYA! 
While carrying out 'quality control' on my most recent batch of Never Fail Fudge (everyone loves it and keeps requesting more!), I burned my mouth on the boiling hot mixture and now I have a huge blister on the roof of my mouth, right behind my 2 top front teeth.

Ouch!  I hate it when that happens.   

I hope it doesn't take long to heal.  Have you tried sucking on an ice cube?  That sometimes works for me.

Very ouch! Seems those are the worst and last the longest. Fingers crossed for speedy healing.

 Have you tried sucking on an ice cube?

Yeah, I did.  An ice cube with plenty cherry vodka & diet Coke around it! 

Yeah, I did.  An ice cube with plenty cherry vodka & diet Coke around it! 

LOL - The best kind! 

My ice cubes were mostly used to make my special vodka martini.  No pain after one or two of those babies! 

Not an I but a huge, huge A: I abhor the phrase 'baby mama'. I know it is a common phrase these days but I work with a guy who says 'my baby mama' at least 30 times a day. What is wrong with saying 'mother of my children', 'my fiancee', or heck, get wild and crazy and use her name. Baby mama just seems so disrespectful. It is annoying enough if it is used when a child comes from a one time thing or quick fling, but he is engaged to her and intending to spend the rest of his life with her.

Rant over.

I'm currently really annoyed at my soon to be in laws telling me what I "need" to be doing at my own wedding. Makes it even more awkward at the fact that my fiancée isn't 100% he even wants to invite them to the actual ceremony -_- (we are having a very, very, very small ceremony!)

BriKH--I'm sorry to read that your future in-laws are being jerks already! I'm hoping they get better once you're in the family. My husband's brother called me the day before my wedding to tell me that he and his wife didn't like my choice for the meal for my wedding and wanted it changed. He actually said, "Deborah and I were discussing the meal for tomorrow and we don't like lamb and I've never heard of celeriac so I'm not certain I will eat that either. Deborah doesn't like red wine so it's all a miss for us. But, if you can, I would rather have chicken and normal mash with white wine. You only have 8 people attending your wedding as guests so BE A DEAR and change the menu for only me and Deb. I'll see you tomorrow" and then hung up. I chose not to call him back but let my husband handle it. That was my biggest mistake. My husband didn't tell him no. He never called his brother back! We didn't change the menu but they were jerks throughout the entire day because they were hungry. My father-in-law ended up giving us money to go out for pizza and bought the wife a bottle of white wine. I would never have let that go on but I was too afraid to say anything. He and his wife are STILL rude to me and I will be married for 20 years this month. I regret not POLITELY telling him to kiss my ass when I had the chance. I know it's hard to not make waves before you are part of the family but stand your ground and tell your in-laws you have everything under control!

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Wow lorena, I would have been super annoyed!

Funny enough, it's about food and the structure of the day for us as well. My future sister-in-law is a wedding photographer and is advising me of the layout of the day and how I need to do things but we're not doing anything traditional. We're doing things OUR own laid back way. I also keep getting told that my future mother in law will do our buffet and I don't want her to do my buffet (we weren't even sure we were doing one in the first place). Apparently they have already called around to pubs to see if I can have my reception there. How very kind of them...ughhhhh.

I am waiting until I am back in the UK before saying anything so I can have a nice sit down with the fiancé first to outline what it is we want for sure and get everything booked, but if they keep pushing before then I just might have to speak out now!

Thanks for the space to rant!! This has been eating me up! I think it's because I have been super stressed over the visa process and this just pushes me even further.