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One mistake I made when I lived in Australia was spending most of my time with other Americans. I should have spent all of my time with Aussies, which would have helped me to better adapt to Aussie society.
Since you have moved to the UK- do you try and befriend mainly fellow American expats, or do you try and avoid the American groups and thus befriend mainly native Britons?


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #1 on: December 09, 2010, 04:43:09 PM »
I don't care where they are from really...its all a matter of who is my friend and who is around ;-)

I don't have a preference since I have friends on both sides of country.


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #2 on: December 09, 2010, 04:47:05 PM »
A mix really.  Though I have slightly more American online friends. 

That said it's nice to have meetups once in a while and talk to someone who gets your pop culture references and moan about how expensive pumpkin is.  ;D
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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #3 on: December 09, 2010, 04:51:56 PM »
A mix really.  Though I have slightly more American online friends. 

That said it's nice to have meetups once in a while and talk to someone who gets your pop culture references and moan about how expensive pumpkin is.  ;D
I agree with this completly but I don't prefer to spend time with one group or another on a daily basis.
Heck some days I will take whoever is around lol


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #4 on: December 09, 2010, 05:37:35 PM »
No preference here. As long as someone is bright, witty, interesting and fun to be around, then I don't mind where they're from.
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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #5 on: December 09, 2010, 05:49:44 PM »
No preference here. As long as someone is bright, witty, interesting and fun to be around, then I don't mind where they're from.

Yep, same here.

I spend my time with people I get along with and have fun with.  I don't care if they're from the US, UK, or anywhere else.


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #6 on: December 09, 2010, 05:50:26 PM »
American or British, either is fine with me.  Although I do have to remind some brits to talk bit slower so I can fully understand them or I find myself saying.....say again or what did you say LOL.


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #7 on: December 09, 2010, 05:54:53 PM »
It makes no difference to me where a person is from, but I did find that at first I had more friends who were American or who were from countries other than the UK.  I attribute that to the fact that like me, they were looking to re-establish their lives and were the one more open to new friendships.  Not that Brits aren't open to new friends, just that they had a life that more than likely didn't have enough time to spend with their long time friends and family, much less add new people to that mix!
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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #8 on: December 09, 2010, 08:50:03 PM »
It makes no difference to me where a person is from, but I did find that at first I had more friends who were American or who were from countries other than the UK.  I attribute that to the fact that like me, they were looking to re-establish their lives and were the one more open to new friendships.  Not that Brits aren't open to new friends, just that they had a life that more than likely didn't have enough time to spend with their long time friends and family, much less add new people to that mix!

I did the same thing when I first moved over here.  It took me a year to start to try and mix, but now have a nice bunch of friends who are from all over. 


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #9 on: December 09, 2010, 08:56:45 PM »
No preference here. As long as someone is bright, witty, interesting and fun to be around, then I don't mind where they're from.

Same here. Although I don't have any American friends but that is because I haven't made a special effort to meet Americans and I don't know any Americans here, other than people on UKY. I have met people through DH, work and various activities, and none of them have been American. Almost all have been British.

I'm interested in making friends with people that I share interests with. I don't care where they're from either.


Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #10 on: December 09, 2010, 09:02:04 PM »
I don't actively try to friend one group or another.  I just take people as they come and friend those who I want to be friends with.  Honestly, I could not tell you which I have more of any more.  Each one adds something good to my life and I don't really distinguish between them.  Unless I'm talking to a friend who is new and integrating here and we discuss being outsiders, I don't think about it.  I am here, and my American and British friends are just my friends here.   :)


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #11 on: December 10, 2010, 04:08:03 AM »
I'd love to meet more Americans over here, my 8 year old is the only other one around...


    But really I'd just take any adult right now, with a 3 month old and a 8 year old the most conversation I get is about SpongeBob Squarepants...
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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #12 on: December 10, 2010, 10:29:46 AM »
It makes no difference to me where a person is from, but I did find that at first I had more friends who were American or who were from countries other than the UK.  I attribute that to the fact that like me, they were looking to re-establish their lives and were the one more open to new friendships.  Not that Brits aren't open to new friends, just that they had a life that more than likely didn't have enough time to spend with their long time friends and family, much less add new people to that mix!

That's been my experience so far, as well.  That and my husband works for an american company whose employees are largely males with non-working american SOs (due to frequent moves) -- so that was my starting point after many very lonely months.  I've expanded my circle from there, but it's largely other expats who are also actively looking for new friendships.  I do have some British friends, but not as many.  I'm hoping to meet more people once our baby arrives, but I don't particularly care where they're from -- just as long as they're nice and willing to put up with me.   ;)


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #13 on: December 10, 2010, 11:02:31 AM »
I like spending my time with both.  It's nice to be able to chat with Americans about things from 'back home' and to be able to share your immigration/adjustment issues with someone who directly understands because they've been there and done that.  I couldn't talk about preparing for my visa with a British person and have them truly understand the stress involved.  Kinda like talking to a person who's never been pregnant about pregnancy...they can hear you but they can't really 'feel' you.  I'm lucky enough to have someone I went to school with (in America) who I've known for over 20 years living a few minutes walk from me and we spend a lot of time together.

I also enjoy spending time with Brits to discuss the differences in everything and get their views.  I'm a bit of a nerd I guess so I like to have indepth conversations about the differences in NHS and US healthcare and things like that.

As far as just general 'hanging out'...dinner or a movie or bowling or whatever...I just like to be around people who are interesting and it makes no difference.


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Re: Do you prefer to spend your time with other US expats, or native Britons?
« Reply #14 on: December 10, 2010, 11:59:50 AM »
My father's parents both came from the same city in Poland. However, they did not meet until after they came to America. (They immigrated at the beginning of the 20th century.) They met because when in America, they stuck with people from the same city  - not the same country, the same city.

How different for us.


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