Who is getting married in 2011?

Ooh, me too! Me too!

We're aiming for 3rd September, but are just starting (as of tomorrow) to find a venue. We live in Londontown, too, but are trying to have the wedding in Surrey, where he's from.

I'm sorry that you're having a hard time with your mom, Sscarllet! I'm going through a difficult time with my family, too, if it's any consolation!

Ah, the dysfunctional fun that comes out during wedding planning!

Ah, the dysfunctional fun that comes out during wedding planning!

Ive told my mom numerous times that I'm eloping.  But she's already got the entire day planned out--in the middle-of-nowhere-NC (which I hate), menu recipes, homemade wedding favors, etc.--and the kicker is, i'm not even engaged yet!!

Congrats to everyone getting married this year! 

Wedding planning is a nightmare.

Originally, my fiancee and I had planned to elope to Northern Ireland.  We figured it would be easy with legalities because it's in the UK, and we didn't want to have the  stress of a big wedding.


Well, his mum got involved and convinced him we should have a "real" wedding.  He, in turn, convinced me.  The presents don't hurt, and it is a once in a lifetime occasion, so I'm cool with it now.  But the stress from planning is killing me!!!

Planning a wedding on a wee island in Scotland, where there are not many wedding resources, from across the Atlantic sucks!  We're still waiting for the fiancee visa, so who knows if we'll actually make the March 25th deadline!


I made my mum cry too.  Actually, she made me cry a lot, and then I got tough.  Laid down the law: MY wedding, MY choices.  We only went dress shopping twice, both just to look.  I didn't get her involved in my final decision (we are VERY different people, with VERY different tastes.)  She likes the dress I chose (it's actually my 2nd dress.)  However, she has too many opinions, and her taste is NOTHING like mine.  Also, she is not very good at being tactful when she doesn't like an idea or design of mine.

 I basically had to tell her that I would involve her in the planning process as much as possible despite us living over an hour apart, but that I already have my main ideas figured out, and I know what I want.  Furthermore, I went on to tell her that if she couldn't play nice, and was causing me undo stress during the planning, I would not hesitate to banish her from all wedding planning.

My mum has never been married.  Big surprise.

Wedding planning is a nightmare.

Originally, my fiancee and I had planned to elope to Northern Ireland.  We figured it would be easy with legalities because it's in the UK, and we didn't want to have the  stress of a big wedding.


Well, his mum got involved and convinced him we should have a "real" wedding.  He, in turn, convinced me.  The presents don't hurt, and it is a once in a lifetime occasion, so I'm cool with it now.  But the stress from planning is killing me!!!

Planning a wedding on a wee island in Scotland, where there are not many wedding resources, from across the Atlantic sucks!  We're still waiting for the fiancee visa, so who knows if we'll actually make the March 25th deadline!


I made my mum cry too.  Actually, she made me cry a lot, and then I got tough.  Laid down the law: MY wedding, MY choices.  We only went dress shopping twice, both just to look.  I didn't get her involved in my final decision (we are VERY different people, with VERY different tastes.)  She likes the dress I chose (it's actually my 2nd dress.)  However, she has too many opinions, and her taste is NOTHING like mine.  Also, she is not very good at being tactful when she doesn't like an idea or design of mine.

 I basically had to tell her that I would involve her in the planning process as much as possible despite us living over an hour apart, but that I already have my main ideas figured out, and I know what I want.  Furthermore, I went on to tell her that if she couldn't play nice, and was causing me undo stress during the planning, I would not hesitate to banish her from all wedding planning.

My mum has never been married.  Big surprise.

Basically what happened with mine, she made me cry a lot, then I decided I wasn't about to be sad at my own wedding, so made her cry, and because I am a terrible daughter, told her I wouldn't invite her if she didn't step back.

She got over it...in about 2 weeks   Also I threw her an olive branch and said that my nieces could be bridesmaids and she could help choose their dresses, which focussed her crazy on them, and they're only 8 so they don't mind as much

Refocusing the crazy is key.


My mum offered to buy us the serving set and champagne flutes for the wedding.  I found some that I really liked and she actually had the gall to say "Those are hideous! There is no way I'm going to buy THOSE for you!"  Thanks mum.  I told her off, saying she was being rude, selfish, and inconsiderate, and said that I had no problem looking at other designs but that it was our decision and we would pay for them ourselves if she was going to be like that.

Luckily, she's in the process of moving and starting a new contract job, so her crazy has been focused on her things in her own life for the time being.

I'm safe...for now. lol

I think that if DF and I can survive the way my mom is acting that we will be able to survive everything. 

We've decided to play a bit nasty and just asked my horrible younger sister to read something during the ceremony.  I don't want her as a bridesmaid, I'm just having one and that's my bestie. 

Another getting married in 2011.  On Tuesday in fact.

We had always planned on a small wedding and had initially decided Vegas, for convenience reasons.  There was a major family drama on DFs side (basically they all refused to come after previously agreeing) and we scrapped the whole thing about 6 weeks ago.  Now we are eloping in New Orleans - just the two of us.  I am showing DF around the town and we are spending two weeks total here, sort of a wedding vacation.   

Our venue is a plantation home - this one:  http://www.nottoway.com/

Our outfits are the splurge items and we both had something made.  The boy is wearing a contemporary kilt in a lovely black and gray tartan.  We did have a kilt drama.  The kilt was supposed to be ready before we left the UK before Christmas and due to the snow the whole thing was drastically behind schedule.  It FINALLY got delivered to our hotel just two days ago.  Thankfully it fits great and looks hot!

I am wearing a 50s style dress.  It is a white polka dot dress with a purple waisty thing and purple petticoat.  I am wearing towering black patent leather peep toes, which sounds weird in writing but fits the style.  I am changing into purple Chucks later.  In traditional style, DF is aware of the style of my dress but doesn't know any details, not even colors, so it will be a surprise.  I am going light on jewelry but will be wearing some nice earrings that DF's mom bought me as a piece offering (guilt over the wedding drama, I think).

What else...  We are having a violinist play and I have a huge multi-colored bouquet.  Photographer of course.  We are staying at the plantation overnight the night before and having a wedding meal there, with wedding cake.  After the ceremony, we are going back to New Orleans and taking photos around town together. Topping it off with a nice meal and staying in a hotel I have always dreamed of.    Oh and Monday, DF and I are doing a spa day together!

Another getting married in 2011.  On Tuesday in fact.

We had always planned on a small wedding and had initially decided Vegas, for convenience reasons.  There was a major family drama on DFs side (basically they all refused to come after previously agreeing) and we scrapped the whole thing about 6 weeks ago.  Now we are eloping in New Orleans - just the two of us.  I am showing DF around the town and we are spending two weeks total here, sort of a wedding vacation.   

Our venue is a plantation home - this one:  http://www.nottoway.com/

Our outfits are the splurge items and we both had something made.  The boy is wearing a contemporary kilt in a lovely black and gray tartan.  We did have a kilt drama.  The kilt was supposed to be ready before we left the UK before Christmas and due to the snow the whole thing was drastically behind schedule.  It FINALLY got delivered to our hotel just two days ago.  Thankfully it fits great and looks hot!

I am wearing a 50s style dress.  It is a white polka dot dress with a purple waisty thing and purple petticoat.  I am wearing towering black patent leather peep toes, which sounds weird in writing but fits the style.  I am changing into purple Chucks later.  In traditional style, DF is aware of the style of my dress but doesn't know any details, not even colors, so it will be a surprise.  I am going light on jewelry but will be wearing some nice earrings that DF's mom bought me as a piece offering (guilt over the wedding drama, I think).

What else...  We are having a violinist play and I have a huge multi-colored bouquet.  Photographer of course.  We are staying at the plantation overnight the night before and having a wedding meal there, with wedding cake.  After the ceremony, we are going back to New Orleans and taking photos around town together. Topping it off with a nice meal and staying in a hotel I have always dreamed of.    Oh and Monday, DF and I are doing a spa day together!

That sounds lovely! And your venue is GORGEOUS

Have a lovely day on Tuesday (I'm sure you will)

Another getting married in 2011.  On Tuesday in fact.

! Congrats!! How excitingly soon!!   What a beautiful venue! I wish you the most perfect wedding day ever! Good luck with the final preparations It will be an easy date to remember, as well: 1/11/11 (or 11/1/11)

(I keep having to remind the boy what time I get back to England- it's Tuesday, at 1:00pm)

Another getting married in 2011.  On Tuesday in fact.

Sounds wonderful!

Sscarllet, Sara Smile, cheesebiscuit and everyone getting married: you're inspiring me and reminding me of realities! Thank you!

Sincerely,
Member of the class of 2012 

I'm getting married tomorrow too!  Easy date for my future hubby to remember.

We're just going to the registry office, having cancelled all of our big wedding plans a few months ago since no one can come from my side of the family.

I'm trying to get excited, and I am, I'm just sad that I won't know anyone there.

I'm getting married tomorrow too!  Easy date for my future hubby to remember.

We're just going to the registry office, having cancelled all of our big wedding plans a few months ago since no one can come from my side of the family.

I'm trying to get excited, and I am, I'm just sad that I won't know anyone there.

We got married in the US at night and streamed our wedding from a laptop for UK and people who could not make it.
http://www.ustream.tv/ it was super easy just an FYI ;-)

My mom has told me that by not wanting to have my wedding in MD I am basically saying that I don't care if my family comes or not.  I'd like to have the wedding in NY.  She then went on a rant about how you can't get a hotel room in NY for under $300 and that after the reception they would be spending the night in the train station as the hotel would be too expensive. 

My usually wonderful df, while supportive, isn't quite understanding how much this is bothering me.  He won't email venues or hotels and is upset that I've asked him to go and look at a venue by himself this week when I'm at work. 

I just want to cry.  I have a cold sore that I can't shake because I'm so stressed, I just want to hide all the time.  I can't make everyone happy.  I really don't want a wedding at all now.  I think that I need to tell him and my mom that the only way I can keep my sanity is for us to go to city hall with no one's family and then my mom can plan a party in MD, no Brits, just the two of us but she can have whatever she wants and then we can do the same in the UK. 

On top of that I hate my job so much that I usually just always want to cry and have dreams of banging my head into the computer until it breaks.  I just can't do this horrible job (about 70 hours a week), plan a wedding all by myself, find hotel rooms for 20+ people, deal with my Mom, prepare to move all of my stuff to the UK and get the documents for my visa prepared.  I've been engaged for a week and I want to give up!