Tacky Wedding Vent

Please, please take lots of pictures!

Then, on the very next post, bride to be says that at last count there are 35 children coming, and people should bring sports equipment for them to play with.
I can't deal with this meshigginah half and half world.

::insert barrage of creatively strung Spanglish curses that would make a sailor blush::

Bring a stick and string.

Most of my Cuban friends have a wonderful saying for those kinds of people. "Come Mierda".  She is in the running for leadership

To be fair, I think she meant that the parents of the children should bring stuff for their own children to play with. I don't think she was asking all her guests to volunteer to bring sports supplies.

Although I don't think allowing 35 children to come to a wedding and not making any plans for them in advance yourself is a very good idea.

I completely understand why parents would need to bring their children along (and I like kids at weddings) but the couple should have thought of the complications that would create when they decided to make their wedding a long weekend in the country.

Well the stag do/music festival is this weekend. It will be interesting to hear reports about that.

Is the festival in Cambridge? Some of my friends are going to one this weekend as well...
I just think that the wedding looks as if she is planning it by impulse, and on Facebook.  That's just got to add levels of difficulty and confusion to an already complicated process.

No. It's a different festival.

ETA: I just noticed that the couple posted details of the what is happening on the FB page - it was such a long post that FB hid most of it so I didn't realize it was a new post.

First of all, they say there is no vicar - it is all being done by family and friends (They will have been legally married at a registry wedding the Thursday before.)

People are coming down on Friday but the wedding is on Sataruday. They have asked for help setting up beforehand on Friday.

They want to have a barbecue on Saturday and are asking for people to bring food for the barbecue.

They are asking for more cakes and desserts for the wedding desert table.

They are asking for outdoor sports equipment such as footballs and badminton rackets - so I guess I was wrong, they want everyone to volunteer to bring them, not just kids' parents.

They've once again said that they hope people get dressed up because they're getting dressed up, and that high heels will be fine as long as you've got something else to change into.

Oh, man.  I feel for you..but I also can't wait until you go to this wedding for the full report.

So technically this is a BBQ - Pot Luck? with a dressed up theme as a reception.

Forget the heels HA never...I would bring a watermelon boat with a bunch of fruit as the dessert.
Maybe a bottle of ketchup ;-)

I am curious as to who is actually going to be performing the "wedding".

See, here's the thing. I have a British friend who went to a wedding like this and she said it was the best wedding she's ever gone to. It was an outdoor ceremony with big, potluck picnic, games for the kids, kind of an all over hippy-type feel. She said it was totally 'them'. They didn't have a lot of money and everyone knew that, but made it a very special day for them. I think that sounds like a fabulous day, but they didn't try to to make it something it wasn't...unlike your friends. It sounds like that's what they're having, but it certainly didn't start out that way! It seems like they wanted to have a posh outdoor wedding, but realized they can't afford it and all the sudden are backtracking on everything and now it sucks. I hope you're able to have a good weekend in the end, even with their extremely poor party planning.

Yes. It could be fun if there wasn't talk of dressing elegantly and wearing hats and heels.

If I'm going to spend a weekend in the country, I want to do it in jeans and trainers.

If you want posh, you have to be prepared to pay for posh.

exactly - outdoor bbq type receptions can be great fun but it sounds like this wedding has a split personality!

 a friend of mine got married in 2004.  typical church wedding, dresses and shirt and tie.  Then everybody changed to shorts etc. for the bbq reception held at my old summer camp.  They had an organized softball game with bride's side versus groom's etc. 

I think I'd just back out of going citing "confused and broke" as my reasoning. I'm pretty sure it's just me, though. There's just too many requirements for this wedding! :/

I have to go for the whole weekend. It is important to DH. The groom is one of DH's best friends and was a witness at our wedding.

Also, DH got upset because at first he and I weren't invited to the registry wedding - which the bride said is not a real wedding and is called a "registration of marriage", rather than a wedding, on the invitation - so they invited us because DH complained.

The wedding is on Saturday and the barbecue/sports day is on Sunday, which is my birthday.  We are staying in a camper van, so previously I had asked DH if we could go somewhere else on Sunday for my birthday, and he said no, we have to stay for the whole weekend. (We had to rent the camper van for the whole week, so we get to spend the rest of the week doing stuff for my birthday, so it's not so bad.)

DH is usually very agreeable, so this is very important to him.

Another thing is that some of the people have paid to stay in a barn on the campsite.  According to the brochure, the barn has bunkbeds. Now, the couple are telling the people that if you are sleeping in the barn, you have to bring a sleeping bag. If I had thought I had paid for a bed and then was told I was sleeping on the floor in a sleeping bag, I would be very pissed off.


This evening, I asked DH what he thought I should wear, and he said “Wear what you want.” So I said, “when you saw me trying on a dress, you said it looks like something ___ would wear to the pub.” And he said, “I don’t care what you wear;  you’re the one who’s going to be embarrassed.”
I will not be embarrassed.
So I will be wearing my simple little button down dress and a pair of flats. They’re lucky that I don’t go in jeans.

Are you sure the thing on Sunday requires a fancy dress? I can see them expecting that for the wedding, but if the reception is the next day I'm not so sure. It's all so confusing....

And the sleeping on the floor thing is not on. Why didn't they stop telling people they could stay in the barn once the beds were full? That's what hotels do!

Oh dear, Sweetpeach. I just hope and pray that this weekend is a good one for yourself, and your DH, in the end.  *fingers crossed!*