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From Vegas to Newcastle - 7 years on
« on: June 07, 2011, 12:20:19 PM »
Hi Everyone.

So glad I found this place. :)

My name is Kelly and I am 32. Met my hubby (a lovely man from Newcastle) 8 years ago and moved over here 7 years ago from Las Vegas. We have a 19 month old daughter.

Over the past 7 years, try as I might, I have never really settled completely. I have found it incredibly hard to make friends and the weather leaves quite a lot to be desired. I find myself homesick more often than not. Not to say that there aren't good points to living here. But, for me personally, it is a struggle. I just didn't realise what a huge cultural difference there would be. So I am glad to have found this community and I hope to make friends and help out where I can!

Any Americans in the Newcastle area? :)


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Re: From Vegas to Newcastle - 7 years on
« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2011, 02:07:56 PM »
Cheer up, Kelly. I'm not in Newcastle but there are quite a few on here who are so you'll be hearing soon no doubt! I lived in Leeds for over 20 years.
I think you go through stages of adjustment. At first it's all exciting and you want to feel you belong. Then you go through a stage where you can't stand to hear an American accent and don't want to be recognized as one. Then you start to feel nostalgia for home and don't care anymore who knows you're an American. You start reaching out to find folks from "home" and start missing things a lot more. I think a lot of people eventually become a sort of hybrid Anglo-American and may end up feeling neither place is really truly home. But others manage to finally feel totally at ease in the UK. I think it helps if you can find at least one close British friend. I remember going to parties and so on where I felt I was the "token" American and people were only interested in me for my novelty value. But I had (have) one good friend and we could chat for hours and I never felt we were from different countries at all. Hope you arrive at that place soon  ;)
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Married and moved to UK 1974
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Re: From Vegas to Newcastle - 7 years on
« Reply #2 on: June 07, 2011, 02:18:51 PM »
I feel pretty settled here, three years on, but I moved a LOT as a child and didn't have the same connections to home that many people do. That said, on of the things I struggle with, oddly, is being so easily recognized? I am the *only* American a lot of places, which makes it easy for people to figure out who I am/recognize me from a description/remember me, etc.  For someone who is naturally fairly introverted, I am frequently made anxious with all of the, for lack of a better word, attention I can get. The teenagers at the barn where I ride all knew my name before I had any idea who they were, colleagues at work tell me they've heard about me, etc.  It can be overwhelming, especially for someone like me, who generally guards personal time and energy quite closely.
On the other hand, it's been good for me, in a way. I've been saying "yes" to more social stuff (which DH loves as he is wayyyyy more social than me), and I've learned to not try to fade into the background quite so much. But, yeah, exhausting!

And never mind learning to drive and navigate over here!


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Re: From Vegas to Newcastle - 7 years on
« Reply #3 on: June 07, 2011, 02:58:22 PM »
Welcome Beelishy

There are a few of us up here near Newcastle ;-)
We do try and get together at least 2 times a year it seems.  I have been here awhile and being able to drive and have some people to chat with helps.  Believe me the woman (and few men) on here have been lovely and I dont think it would have been as easy without them.  Someone has been there and done it so they have experience.
Hopefully you will find some comfort on UKY and maybe even make a few friends as I believe you can never have too many friends.

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