Dress for a very, very posh English wedding?! HELP?!?!?!?

NEW money is right - her grandfather made it. He owns "the largest debt collection agency in the UK."

I felt for snooty for saying that will admit I regretted it immediately, but she certainly does sound awful.  It just sounds like a nightmare of a time.  I'm glad you won't have to spend too much time with her. (Debt collectors brings up interesting images).

She is New Money, tall and blonde.

He is old money, fat, and drunk.

I am beginning to wonder if I am EVER gonna make friends here...

I am beginning to wonder if I am EVER gonna make friends here...

Forget that lot! You can find far nicer people than that.

Oh... get THIS!
So, the "Barn booking" for the wedding... Where we had twin beds, and my husband Matty had to commit a year ago to stay for 3 nights... It was the only option... It was block booked by Steph, the bride-monster.
OK, so, yeah, Matty DOES owe the whole amount, even tho we told them we could not come for the whole time, and we only stayed one night - BECAUSE WE COULD NOT AFFORD TO BE AWAY FOR THAT LONG, and the cost of attending the wedding was quite a hardship for us, and they KNEW IT because we TOLD THEM SO... and we asked if we could only pay for the one night... And we were told NO.
So, OK, fine. Matty agreed, a year ago, and it is block booked...
But, they know our situation, and that we are hard ass broke right now, and... They, lets just say, are NOT hard up.
These people spend 100 pounds on a bottle of wine for lunch, and they know we have been eating pasta for 3 months in order to afford to pay for gas to their freakin' wedding...
They know how much the visa cost us, and the move, and that I am not yet working... And, they are VERY RICH PEOPLE...
We already gave them 100 pounds... And we DO owe 100 more... So, the day they get back from honeymoon, without so much as a "Hello" or "How are you" we get a text, "Steph needs the money for the booking" from Ben.
So, Matty contacts him, says hi, how was the honeymoon, and politely explains that we simply do not have it at the moment.
And Ben was like, "OK" but then of course he told HER...
Then... Steph POSTS on Matty's facebook wall, about 6 hours later... "Can you transfer the money you owe us for the barn into my account today."
No HELLO, no How are you... Just Gimmie me the money - And on a PUBLIC POST.
ON HIS WALL? REALLY? REALLY?
HOW TACKY IS THAT?
It pissed me off.
Ben told her what Matty said, and then THAT is what she does.
So, I responded by posting on HER wall, "Hi Steph! We are fine! Thanx for asking! How was the honeymoon?"
I *wanted* to post: "Hey Steph, I know you are really hard up for cash right now, so we will be sending you some money shortly" on HER wall.
But, I didn't.
Whatever, we do owe it. Fair is fair and it was agreed too a year ago, and block booked...
We just don't have it.
I think she is a b*tch, totally trying to shame Matty, and a control freak.
I'd LOVE to NOT pay it - but, 100 pounds is not worth Matty losing a friend over - I mean Ben, not her...
BLAH.
That woman has no class.
We may not have money, but we do have basic manners.
We owe it, we know, we do not have it now... She need not try to public shame us.

I hope she gets hit by a bus.

And, because I am a New Yorker, I posted the following on MY WALL:

“Good manners sometimes means simply putting up with other people's bad manners.” - H. Jackson Brown, Jr. (American best selling writer, author of Life's Little Instruction Book)

Friends and good manners will carry you where money won't go."
- Margaret Walker

So, yeah... Wedding over, b*tch won't GO AWAY... All the more reason to pay her as soon as we possibly can....

And, for the record, I feel NO SHAME in being broke. It is NOT a secret. My issue is with her intent. I know who she is, and how she is, and how important it is to her be rich - And I know her intent was to SHAME him... She does not need the money.
She was being nasty.

Am I crazy?

I feel crazy.

Well, it's enough to drive you crazy. But no, you are not crazy.

Sounds like she has nothing better to do then sit around and think of ways to be spiteful.
Being so rich must be extremely boring!
I pity her obviously useless life.

Thank you for the support over my total rant... It is not like we are broke *Just to Spite Her* or anything... Or like she is gonna "Go without" over 100 pounds...

I. AM. SO. MAD.

I am, I think, unreasonably MAD about this... Am I overreacting?

Was there ANY REASON for her to publicly post that on my husbands wall? Other than to shame him?

Is it just stupidity?

Does she simply not know any better?

Could that be possible?

I always, ALWAYS, try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and assume good intentions, but I am simply, totally unable to see it right now.

I'm really struggling with it. I'm struggling not to call her, and really tell her off...

I think you have a right to be angry.  Maybe do call her, she'll likely at least be polite enough to say you can pay her whenever if she has to say it to you rather than by some cowardly social networking means. 

So, this is great... This is what my best friend in NYC said:

"So, lemmie be sure I am clear here.... You are surprised that a spoiled Debt Collectors granddaughter posted a "You owe me money" comment on the wall of your husband's facebook page? Have you ever dealt with a debt collector, darling???"


LOLOLOLOLOLOL

I really find this to be shockingly rude.  There are a few people who owe us some cash because we helped with their flights and whatnot for the wedding (some of DF's friends).  I know that DF has been gently reminding them, but we're going on 6 months of the money owed and we need it and they know we need it.  Despite how upset I am that they haven't returned the cash I wouldn't post it on their facebook and I wouldn't mention it to them. 

I guess I'm more irritated because DF has often lent this  couple money and they take years to pay it back. 

If you gave prior notice that you couldn't stay the three nights and they said ok, I would just pay for the one night and point that out to them.  Just because it's thier wedding doesn't mean that they get to rob your bank account.

Yeah, I would find it difficult not to comment on her post on your husband's facebook with something like, 'I know debt collection is your family business, but I would appreciate if you could show a bit more tact when dealing with private money issues between friends. You know our financial situation at the moment, so there is no excuse for your rude and thoughtless behaviour in posting such a statement on a public forum like this. I can only assume you care more for money than the dignity of your friends, not that this is a surprise based on your behaviour over the past few months. We are not all so fortunate as to have rich fathers and husbands who can pay our bills; you'll get your money when we have it, and would appreciate if you don't harass us further with you rudeness.'

Sscarllet - In ALL fairness, we did not give them enough notice about not being able to stay the whole time... So, we do owe the money.
Because it was "Blocked Booked" and a 3 night minimum, it was a set amount, to be divided up between whomever was staying there - the more who stayed the less each person paid. And a year ago, my husband said yes to all 3 nights. The cost was never discussed, and his situation has changed in a year.
And, she did not negotiate well... It was 3 nights each person, or nothing, (there was no place else to stay) and to back out of it you needed to give 6 weeks notice. So, he did not give the 6 weeks notice.
It was also kind of lame that a "YES" a year ago was held over my husbands head for the booking... But, it was.
She IS going to be charged the flat rate, and it is up to her to collect from guests.
6 weeks before the wedding we were not even sure if I was getting the visa, and my father suddenly died... So, we were not thinking of her wedding.
And, 6 weeks before the wedding, we were not aware of the actual PRICE of the booking.
We did not get that information until about 3 weeks before the wedding.
We were doing all we could to try and be there for my husbands friend, and as it got closer and closer, we just had to face it that we could not do it. We could not afford my husband having to be off work on Fri, and Mon, and the travel expense, and the 3 night booking.
So, we drove up the day of the wedding, and left the morning after.
When we told them we had to do it that way, they told us we still had to pay for all 3 nights.
So, we STILL do owe the money.

DrSuperL99 -
WOW. Yeah. Well said!
And, it IS exactly what I would like to say.
But, if I were to send that, it would effectively ruin my husbands friendship with the groom, and I think most friendships are worth more than 100 pounds. They have been close friends for many years.

LaraMascara- I know I'm uber late to this post, but just wanted to say WOW! After reading 7 pages of this evil bridezilla putting you and your hubby through hell I must say BRAVO HONEY! You have handled yourself beautifully considering EVERYTHING that has happened! I'm glad you were able to find a beautiful ensemble on the cheap (I always love a great bargain). I'm sorry you guys have to pay for 3 nights at a hotel when you only stayed 1.. I truly think that woman has ZERO CLASS and if I ever ran into her and she acted that way towards me I would give her some "American" girl attitude and tell her where to shove it I know that's not very lady like, but when you hit your limit, you hit your limit. Hoping things get better for you as far as the job situation goes.. Remember is goes to show you money can't buy you happiness... Some of the richest people are the ones who don't have a lot of money in the bank account. Sending hugs, positive thoughts and lots of happiness your way!!!

Awwwwwww!!!!!

Thank you darling! You made my day! You really did!

I just applied for a great job, with a personal reference, so I am hoping to at least get an interview!

First check: I will PAY bride-Monster her stinking 100 pounds, in a Get Well Soon card!

Sick chick that she is... LOL!!!!