Family making jokes about how fat I am all the time :(

I'll start doing this. I wasn't going to but now I'm just so exhausted of being polite.

I was raised to be polite, and I firmly believe in being polite, but I also know there can often be a fine line between being polite and having people take your reactions as acceptance of how they are treating you. Standing up for yourself is not wrong, and if you have tried as long as you can stand it with politely taking it all, it is time to be a little less polite. The first time you stand up for yourself will be the hardest, and after that it will come more easily. You can say what you have to in a firm but polite tone without yelling and screaming, which goes along with how you were raised. If it doesn't get the point across, or they stop for a bit and start again, say something again. They will get it in time.

WTH. Size 14-18 isn't even obese or anything. Losing weight is hard. I've always had a really hard time with it myself, doesn't help when you have a really sh*t metabolism and even though you're doing everything you can everyone still assumes you're lazy.

WTH. Size 14-18 isn't even obese or anything. Losing weight is hard. I've always had a really hard time with it myself, doesn't help when you have a really sh*t metabolism and even though you're doing everything you can everyone still assumes you're lazy.

My Dietitian & Dr would disagree with you on that size 14-18 isn't obese cause I'm a size 14 jeans & size 16 top an they both say I'm obese. I know losing weight is hard especially if you have a crap metabolism or have something like PCOS that has a slue of problems that goes with it especially hindering weight loss.  

GoodLuck with your weight loss GibbyGabb. Dh is always telling slow & steady wins the race sweetheart he is such a wonderful support system for me!!

My Dietitian & Dr would disagree with you on that size 14-18 isn't obese cause I'm a size 14 jeans & size 16 top an they both say I'm obese.

Obesity isn't about size. It's about fat.

I am sorry to hear that your in-laws are a completely unsupportive bunch. Laugh at someone else so they can hide their fears of their flaws. I think I would avoid them a bit if you can. I would also state that the comments hurt your feelings as others have suggested. It's not right for you to go home and cry.
In regards to your back, where is the pain coming from. I have major back damage and i cannot do anything when it acts up. The only thing the orthopedic surgeon could suggest was injecting me with steroids and giving me narcotics. I didn't do the injections and I used the narcs very sparsely... only when I literally cried from the pain.
Do you do stretching? What about exercises done from the chair (check out on YouTube). That could help. Hyperthyroidism could be an issue.
The only mean thing, which I might do is to find a flaw in each of your in-laws and shoot a rude comment whenever a joke about your weight is said. When you see their shocked look, you can say, "This is how I feel when you make fun of my weight."

Obesity isn't about size. It's about fat.

I know that more than anyone else would I have been seeing my Dietitian for 2 years I have lost almost 7 stone an they still say I'm Obese.

WTH. Size 14-18 isn't even obese or anything. Losing weight is hard. I've always had a really hard time with it myself, doesn't help when you have a really sh*t metabolism and even though you're doing everything you can everyone still assumes you're lazy.

My Dietitian & Dr would disagree with you on that size 14-18 isn't obese cause I'm a size 14 jeans & size 16 top an they both say I'm obese. I know losing weight is hard especially if you have a crap metabolism or have something like PCOS that has a slue of problems that goes with it especially hindering weight loss.  

I was commenting on someone else's comment about sizes & not being obese.  

I was commenting on someone else's comment about sizes & not being obese.  

I know. Which is why you'd know that someone who's a size 14-18 isn't necessarily obese.

I know. Which is why you'd know that someone who's a size 14-18 isn't necessarily obese.

I imagine someone who's only 4'11" and a size 18 might be obese, but someone 5'11" and a size 18 may not be.

I imagine someone who's only 4'11" and a size 18 might be obese, but someone 5'11" and a size 18 may not be.

I know a woman who is 5'6" and a 15 and quite thin. Bone structure, height, and a lot of other factors come into play, but some doctors/dietitians want to go by a simple chart and place everyone in one category.

In the day and age where a size 6 model is a 'plus size model', it is no wonder doctors say these things. 

To be morbidly obese one must be 100+ lbs overweight and obese is like 75lbs overweight or something pretty close. It's a horrible word and it's hard to hear I know as I've lost 60lbs and am still in the obese region. The family should be ashamed of themselves really. They should be commenting on how far you've come instead. What huge progress you've made and I for one am well impressed. Keep up the outstanding work.

To be morbidly obese one must be 100+ lbs overweight and obese is like 75lbs overweight or something pretty close. It's a horrible word and it's hard to hear I know as I've lost 60lbs and am still in the obese region. The family should be ashamed of themselves really. They should be commenting on how far you've come instead. What huge progress you've made and I for one am well impressed. Keep up the outstanding work.

I have lost nearly 100lbs but my Dr & Dietian both say I'm out of the morbidly obese catergory but I'm still in the obese catergory still that's very annoying to hear that for as hard as I have worked to lose the weight I have lost.   I was told I only have little bit more weight to lose before I'm out of the obese catergory thank goodness I can see the light at the end of the tunnel at last its been a looonngg road.  

Congrats on your weight loss Windycitywids keep up the great work your doing!!  

To be morbidly obese one must be 100+ lbs overweight and obese is like 75lbs overweight or something pretty close. It's a horrible word and it's hard to hear I know as I've lost 60lbs and am still in the obese region. The family should be ashamed of themselves really. They should be commenting on how far you've come instead. What huge progress you've made and I for one am well impressed. Keep up the outstanding work.

I don't think that's true. At least not medically. You can be obese and morbidly obese at much less than 75 or 100lbs overweight.

According to wiki (a lovely source of "facts" )
Obesity is a medical condition in which excess body fat has accumulated to the extent that it may have an adverse effect on health, leading to reduced life expectancy and/or increased health problems.[1][2] Body mass index (BMI), a measurement which compares weight and height, defines people as overweight (pre-obese) if their BMI is between 25 and 30 kg/m2, and obese when it is greater than 30 kg/m2.[3]

Now everyone knows that if you don't have a "normal" body fat to muscle ratio (like you're a weightlifter or athlete) than BMI definitions can be quite inaccurate, but for the majority of people it will work just fine.

For instance, if you were 5'0 and weighed 155lbs you'd be classed as obese.
Let's look at this lady -
http://www.mybodygallery.com/photos-11322-body-shape.htm#img

She's 5'0 and 160lbs and is medically classed as obese. She's a US size 12. Personally I think she looks fabulous, but I also think people's perceptions of what is a "normal" or "healthy" weight are very skewed. If she wanted to be in the normal BMI range she'd need to lose around 35lbs, (not 75lbs or 100lbs)

Here's an article (admittedly by the daily fail) where they confront people about their weight and it's pretty clear that most of the people didn't realise they were overweight or borderline obese. Looking at those people I mostly consider them to be "normal" and wouldn't really think about them being overweight.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2081484/Are-FATTER-think-These-people-dont-realise-just-overweight-are.html

I was very very heavy, still am in the overweight category and I really shied away from words like obese as I felt they were really harsh words, but actually it was harsh words that really scared me into doing something about it, and whenever I can't be bothered to exercise I think about how much I hate those words.

I am a HAES advocate ( http://www.healthateverysize.org.uk/haes.html)  and one that really believes in being as healthy as you can be at any weight. Even when I was 130lbs heavier I did couch to 5K, I cycled and I walked over 5 miles a day. A blog that I think is really fabulous and hugely inspirational is http://skinnyemmie.com/  Emmie ran a half marathon at over 350lbs!

So I guess my advice would be, don't worry about the numbers or the weight, just try and love yourself, because you should never feel bad or sad, or stressed about your weight, if you start to accept your body, you'll find it easier to do good things for it, and then, if you want it to, the weight loss will come to you, but on the flip side, it can be unhealthy to be overweight, so try and be realistic with yourself about it, without blaming or shaming.

I've accepted that I'm never going to go a single day in my life where I don't think about food, my weight, my body image, etc, so I'm trying not to waste that time being so negative with myself

I don't think that's true. At least not medically. You can be obese and morbidly obese at much less than 75 or 100lbs overweight.

Yeah, I just looked it up: I'm 5'2" and weigh about 120 lbs, which gives me a healthy BMI of 21 (although I'm about 8 lbs heavier than I normally am right now due to sitting down all day at work and not doing much exercising ).

However, according to the BMI calculator, I would only need to put on 17 lbs to be classed as overweight and 45 lbs to be classed as obese.

Like I said, it was something like that. Maybe for me it was 100 lbs but all I know is that I was morbidly obese and now I've graduated to just obese. Thanks Shugg for the kind words. 

I just don't understand how people can think that completely shooting down a persons self-esteem and being totally nasty is going to help! And they wonder why so many people have problems!!

Overall, I think what needs to be educated out there is 1. healthy relationship with yourself and 2. healthy relationships with food....I think the world is hung up on treating the symptoms, that they forget to work on the cure for the disease! Everything is so relative depending on the shape and size of a person so we can't all be looped into the same cookie-cutter mold! I have a horrible relationship with food, so I've really had to level myself with the idea of what makes me healthy and not what society thinks I should look like.

Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself! You don't deserve that kind of treatment! The measure of a person doesn't come from their waistline, it comes from their heart and integrity. If they can't understand that, then they don't deserve a beautiful person like you in their life! Take care of you!