A little background. I have been married to my husband (English) for 6 years now. So when we (my daughter and I) applied for our visa's we were given ILE..(I had already taken the Life in the UK test). My husband and I also have a son, who is now 3. We moved to England Nov 2010.
My daughter, C, is 17, born 3 1/2 months premature, has brain damage, short term memory problems, can't separate fact from fiction, deaf, vision problems..developmentally she has stopped, an is assessed as being between 8-10 yrs old.
Before I met my husband, there was a series of events, where it was very possible she had been molested. This did not come to light until I married my husband, and as soon as the perp was arrested we had her interviewed at a special clinic that specializes in interviewing children. She was 13 at the time. We were told not to worry, they were pretty sure she has not been molested.
Fast forward to last week. Well to say all hell broke lose would be an understatement. On Wens she came to my husband an said she had bad memories. He sat and talk to her. She said she had been molested...and how aweful it was. My heart broke. Well because of her short term memory issue, we have to have her write most things down, so we can keep referring back to them. The next day was busy but that night she did write things down. It not only had to do with the perp we feared, but her brother (who is 3 yrs older) ((she said he had been having sex with her since she was 7..that means he would have been 10..an it stopped when she was 11)). Says she molested a 4 yr old little boy when she herself was 7. Then the kicker was she said..
she was asleep and felt someone feel her boob....she wrote it was my husband. When I asked her, she said when she opened her eyes, no one was there but she thinks it was him because he was the only man in the house.
she also says when we went to the zoo (a group of 13) and we were all standing around looking at an animal exhibit...that my husbands hand touched her thigh. When I talked to her, I asked her why this was bad in an unto itself? Large crowds..it isn't unheard of. Well when she continued to write, she has changed her story to he grabbed her butt 2 times.
During the last few days she has come right out and said she wants my husband to leave the house. She doesn't like him. She is grasping at tiny things to try and make him sound like a monster. (such as fussing at her for bullying other disabled children at school). She says she is scared of him.
My husband and I feel like this is a witch hunt. Her stories are becoming more creative as time goes on. He called social services, her social worker was out...explained the situation...2 ladies came that night...we signed a protection order (not sure if that is what it is called) Basically says he will not be alone with her. Then over the following 2 days she has gotten worse. He called social services again, explained her stories are shifting and changing..and we are now concerned what she may come up with to get him removed from the home. The next day, a social worker, sign language interputer, and a cop who is part of child protection came to the house to interview her. Talked to her alone for 45 minutes. Then they talked to us briefly. Basically next Tuesday they are taking her into a special interview suite, where they can video tape what she says. The cop says from what she has learned from C and us, she believes she is overlapping memories. She feels safe leaving C in the home.
Our concern is we don't feel safe. She is now lashing out at me, making up stories about what I have done etc. They are concerned with C's safety, but not about the ability of this family to function as a family unit. Our son is acting out horribly, nightmares etc. I lost over 14 pounds in 5 days..and I have significant medical history to where I cannot afford to lose weight like this.
Basically I am looking for advice...or anything. If anyone has dealt with child protection issues in the UK we need help. We feel helpless.
