Miss time with uk hubby

Now that I have a 19 month old life naturally
Is revolving around her. I really miss couple time as hubs
And I had a whirlwind romance and were totally
Focused on each other for about 8 years.  I feel so
Sad about nOt being able to spend as much time together
Also not much family around. I have picked up
More hours at work to keep my mind busier
It has led me to the decision not to have another child as I felt
Happier as a couple not that I don't love my daughter but
The lack of freedom and couPle time has really got me down. Not sure
If I would have been better off around family in the US to keep
Me distracted.

I think its completely normal to be missing couple time, but I think its pretty much one of those things thats expected...kids take up a lot of time, and its tough on a marriage. Do you think that you expected something different? Just try to change couple time to family time! Its still enjoyable to be together as a family imo, its just different! I don't think that having another child changes too much once you already have one, but thats just my experience.

Thanks for your response. I thinkk I just need
To get used to being a mum still yes I think I was a bit naive
To how much time kids take out if your lives and that's my problem. I'm used to doing my own
Thing where and when I want to do this is a lesson learned for me.  Having a kid
Isn't as glamorous as u think !

It's really hard, isn't it. I've found that Jon and I have to book time with each other. We're lucky that we've got inlaws that are willing to take the girls for a weekend every now.  It seems to get easier as the girls get older, though.

I admit, there are times I find myself wishing my life away to a time when they've moved out and it's just Jon and I again. I think it's all part and parcel of having a family.

The only time we seem to get alone is when the kids are in bed, then we usually end up falling asleep on the sofa ourselves 15 minutes into a movie!  lol.  It will get easier as your daughter gets older, our kids are older and a little more independent.  We just try to have a laugh about it - "hey do you think we can actually get a night out to ourselves when the kids are moved out" - kind of thing. 

I have to admit that is a big factor to us moving to the UK - we have no family here in states so moving to be closer to my husband's family. 

My husband and I never go out together without the kids! We have never, not once had a babysitter, and my son is six years old! I go out with my girlfriends, he goes out with his mates, but never together. Maybe once a year we get an in law or my parents to watch the kids, but we never get to go out together. Its all part and parcel of being in the situation that we have chosen to put outselves in, we have chosen to live far away from our families, so we have to deal with that. It was our choice. We went away to Florida with my parents in February, I think thats the last time we went out together. I think we are just so used to it, we don't complain about it! lol.