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Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« on: July 24, 2012, 07:43:27 AM »
 :\\\'( He died a little over a week ago at the age of 36 and they did tests to see cause of death. Still no answer and they said it can take up to 2 months. He was so young and it was a huge shock for everyone but especially DH and DH's mom.

When I was a kid I always wanted an older brother and then I finally got one only to be taken away several short years later. It's hard to move on when you don't know cause of death or anything like that. All I know is the story that his girl friend told us of how she found him which doesn't make a lot of sense. I asked his roomate how bil was found and he told me a completely different story so I'm confused. Why are people lying? Why were there police questioning everyone in the building?

I went to his funeral last week and before that went to see him to say goodbye and now I just feel really depressed and I have trouble sleeping. I also feel guilty because we had a fight the last time I spoke to him and I said some really mean things. He was always very forgiving. I hope he knows I'm sorry and I didn't mean what I said.

I just miss him and his cheeky smile. He had so much coming up. He was going to get married, take a huge trip to europe, etc... It all just feels awful.

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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #1 on: July 24, 2012, 08:21:19 AM »
Oh Gosh GibbyGab, I'm so very sorry for your loss.  (((hugs)))
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #2 on: July 24, 2012, 09:31:01 AM »
So sorry to hear of the loss of your BIL....you will be in my prayers and I pray you will find comfort wrapped in the arms and wings of the Angels........you take care of yourself GibbyGab and I hope you find closure soon........


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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #3 on: July 24, 2012, 09:34:01 AM »
I'm so sorry. :(

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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #4 on: July 24, 2012, 09:36:11 AM »
Oh, I'm so sorry  :\\\'( Hugs to you and your family.
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #5 on: July 24, 2012, 11:06:51 AM »
thanks for all your support guys :)
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #6 on: July 24, 2012, 12:02:32 PM »
My condolences to you and your family on your loss. I hope they determine what happened sooner rather than latter and you can have some peace.

 In cases where there's no clear cause of death police have to treat it as a homicide and question possible witnesses, even when there's no evidence to suggest that, either.  I don't know why you're getting different stories from the GF and the roommate, but people are notoriously bad at remembering details accurately especially when emotions are involved. Hopefully it's nothing more than that.


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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #7 on: July 24, 2012, 03:34:36 PM »
I am so sorry for your loss.  :\\\'( Many, many hugs for you and your family. I wish I could offer more. :(
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #8 on: July 24, 2012, 05:55:08 PM »
I'm so sorry, Gibby. :(


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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #9 on: July 25, 2012, 07:55:52 AM »
Noirem, you're right I hope it was that they were shocked and couldn't remember things straight. I'm just a suspicious person. One thing that really struck me was that the gf said that she wasn't in the house with him and then found him when she came back several hours later while the roomate told me that the gf was in the house with him the whole time and found him in another room dead. I trust the roomate more because they were long time friends and the gf to me always seemed like she was making up little lies all the time and being dramatic the whole time I've known her.

Thanks for your support everyone. It really means a lot to me.
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #10 on: July 25, 2012, 09:05:13 AM »
I'm so sorry for your loss, Gibby. I agree that hopefully after a little time/perspective, you all will find out what exactly happened. Hugs and prayers to you. xx
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #11 on: July 25, 2012, 10:56:57 AM »
Sorry for your loss, GibbyGab.  :(


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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #12 on: July 25, 2012, 09:10:46 PM »
Thanks gottagettolondon and plainpearl :).
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #13 on: July 25, 2012, 09:26:54 PM »
GibbyGab, I'm so sorry for your loss and pain. It is always sad and shocking when a loved one dies suddenly, even more so when the person is so young.  May you find some answers and peace in the coming days.
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Re: Bil died very young and there's no closure yet
« Reply #14 on: July 27, 2012, 12:07:37 PM »
((Hugs)), GG, and I hope you find the closure you need. 


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