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Can you help me decide, please?
« on: September 02, 2012, 04:29:00 AM »
Sorry, I know I've been making a bunch of topics on here lately! I know everyone is probably sick of hearing from me, sooorryy. :(

Anyway, it's 11:20 PM and I'm thinking again. I'm trying to weigh the pros and cons of going to England in late October (the 28th to be exact). I'm supposed to talk to my boyfriend when he gets home about it tomorrow night, finally.

Pros are; see my boyfriend, finally get to cuddle after almost six months of no psychical contact, celebrate Bonfire night, celebrate my 21st birthday in November there with him. Cons are; dealing with some serious immigration anxiety, feel bad for taking so much of bf's money for the plane ticket since I'm almost broke, having to ask my mom's bf to drive me 3 hours away to Toronto's airport, and missing a month of my classes (even though I asked my teacher if it was ok). I really am having trouble deciding and time's a' ticking--because on one hand, I want to see him soooo much. On the other, I'd feel bad for taking so much of his hard earned money, plus dealing with dreadful immigration. Do I stay or should I go now? Hurhur. Just a little kind advice would be helpful on what decision to make..? You guys have helped me out many times so hope to read some words of wisdom.
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Re: Can you help me decide, please?
« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2012, 02:09:26 PM »
I know it it really tempting to go and see your boyfriend, and I can't say with 100% certainty that I would make this decision if I were not on the outside looking in, but to me missing an entire month of your classes is a big mistake. You really do need at least a GED to get by these days and I think that is really important that you stick it out and get that.


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Re: Can you help me decide, please?
« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2012, 03:05:19 PM »
Why don't you wait until you're on a school break? A month is a long time to miss.


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Re: Can you help me decide, please?
« Reply #3 on: September 02, 2012, 05:38:18 PM »
I would also wait until you're on break from school. Getting your GED is very important. I understand wanting to see your boyfriend, but I think missing a month of school is a little risky. Also, if you're not on a break and are using your GED course as proof of ties to the US, won't it look suspicious that you're "skipping out" on class to be in to be in the UK? Obviously, I'm not suggesting that you're trying to pull a fast one, but I would worry that it would look that way to an IO?

Can your BF not visit you in the US?


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Re: Can you help me decide, please?
« Reply #4 on: September 03, 2012, 01:08:30 AM »
Yeeah, I know it'd look a tad suspicious. I want to wait, but the only reason he'd like me over is because he lives with his parents and this would be the only time we'd actually get alone in the house for a month because they're going to Australia in late October. And their house is TINY so when they are there it feels like everyone is on top of eachother. It would be nice to have that kind of home alone feeling with eachother. I'd much rather have him come here, but he can't since he's starting a new job soonish. It's just a crappy situation. I wish I could be there with him for my birthday or he could come here. Sigh. I'm talking to him now so.. :-\\\\


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