"sat there" - grammar

Frankly if someone wants to judge me as less educated or lower class because of the way I speak they are welcome to, I am not ashamed of those things. I grew up poor and dragged myself up in difficult circumstances. Yes I have a bit of a south coast accent but it didn't stop me gaining a first degree from a top university, a BAFTA nomination (x4) or being a company director of a multi million pound company by the time I was 28, so I hardly think people judging me by my use of AMAZE, is holding me back
I haz totes awesome life innit

It's great that you have such a "healthy" amount of self-confidence. Really, it is. We all know how amazing you are.

And what you've said here backs up my earlier post exactly:

But ultimately you'll be judged for it. If that's OK with you, then everyone's happy. If you don't want to be judged, then speak properly.

Obviously, you're OK with it. Very OK.

Oh, and since we're sharing links, this might be of interest to some people who think judging on the basis of grammar doesn't happen - I Won't Hire People Who Use Poor Grammar. Here's Why.

My grammar pet peeve is hearing people say they was or you was.   I just smile but inside I am screaming out it is WERE.

If you don't want to be judged, then speak properly.

That makes a false assumption that you will never be judged for "speaking properly", yet there are many cases where that would happy and you would be judged as "being posh". That's why, as many have already said, it's about tailoring your language to suit your audience. I cring at times when the local news are in Barnsley because they'll pick the people with the broadest accents, yet if I hear those same people in the pub it doesn't bother me.

That makes a false assumption that you will never be judged for "speaking properly", yet there are many cases where that would happy and you would be judged as "being posh".

Is being posh a bad thing?

Is being posh a bad thing?

Only if you sound like Jacob Rees-Mogg. I can't stand listening to him.  

After all these years, I am still not used to the 'sat there' and 'stood there' thing. Hubby says them both, so even though I am back in the States I still hear them.


Another one that confuses me is 'led there' as in "I was led there watching tv". Is that a northern thing or has anyone heard it in other parts of the country?

Another one that confuses me is 'led there' as in "I was led there watching tv". Is that a northern thing or has anyone heard it in other parts of the country?

Not a northern thing - I grew up hearing it being said in a Bristolian accent down in the south-west .

Another one that confuses me is 'led there' as in "I was led there watching tv". Is that a northern thing or has anyone heard it in other parts of the country?

That's a weird one! I've never heard it this far down in the southwest (Cornwall)!

Another one that confuses me is 'led there' as in "I was led there watching tv". Is that a northern thing or has anyone heard it in other parts of the country?

I think that's just the local pronunciation of 'laid there'.... 'i was laid there watching TV'.

I think that's just the local pronunciation of 'laid there'.... 'i was laid there watching TV'.

That makes more sense - but I still don't think I've heard it!

I think that's just the local pronunciation of 'laid there'.... 'i was laid there watching TV'.

Thank you! I was trying to figure out what that meant!

Is being posh a bad thing?

Yes, it can be. It can portray an image of being "stuck up", of looking down your nose at people.
All I was saying was you can equally be judged for "speaking properly" as you can for having a strong accent.

After all these years, I am still not used to the 'sat there' and 'stood there' thing. Hubby says them both, so even though I am back in the States I still hear them.


Another one that confuses me is 'led there' as in "I was led there watching tv". Is that a northern thing or has anyone heard it in other parts of the country?

I'm "northern" (oh how I love that phrase!) and can't say I've heard it.....do you mean as in "laid"?

Trying to spell them can be difficult. I think one I say a lot which catches DW out is "I were" instead of "I was",  as in "I were in the pub"...or more likely "I were in pub" but it's more a contraction of "was" so it's really "I wa' in pub"

I'm "northern" (oh how I love that phrase!) and can't say I've heard it.....do you mean as in "laid"?

Yeah, basically means "I was lying down" - I actually always thought it was a Bristolian dialect thing... didn't realise people said it in other parts of the country as well .

Yes, it can be. It can portray an image of being "stuck up", of looking down your nose at people.

But that isn't valid. Although I do know what you mean - some people may use that interpretation and, yes, judging works both ways.

However, I don't know that I've ever heard of anyone being passed over for a job for using correct grammar.