Wedding and honeymoon and still can't be together

Thanks everyone for your support. I am now in Wales again. Our solicitor is finishing our "package" to present to the UK Embassy in Los Angeles. I will take it home with me when I leave next week.
When I get home I will go online and fill out the form, pay the fee get an appointment.
For those who have more questions about this process, I am not the expert to ask but I know there are many posts here on the subject.

hms_seahorse is correct.
Did you just assume this is what was to happen or is this is what your solicitor told you?
If he told you that you have to go to the UK Embassy in Los Angeles, I would definitely not trust him to prepare the application. The rules have changed significantly since the time that applications were handled in LA.

Oh ok. To be honest, I am not looking forward to the processing. I would rather be with her in the US than in the UK. The more I am in the UK, the less I like it and reading other people's posts about how HORRIBLE the UK is scares me to death. We are doing this UK spousal visa as a back up plan. Her immigration issues will likely be sorted out at the end of June and it will just be a matter of processing a US SPOUSAL VISA. HOPEFULLY. I don't see myself living here. My home in LA is fantastic, has a garbage disposal, my laundry doesn't come out crunchy, I can drive wherever I please and find things open 24 hours. I am due to leave next week to return home to the US. I can't wait. At this point I would change my ticket if I could. Yes, we have been arguing ( in case you are wondering!!). I am housebound. She works a lot. The store is too far to walk to ( if you call it a store). I order TESCO grocery to be delivered online and that is the height of my week.
SORRY TO RANT, but I needed it. And we are not speaking to each other now, so I am held up in the bedroom. lol

Oh ok. To be honest, I am not looking forward to the processing. I would rather be with her in the US than in the UK. The more I am in the UK, the less I like it and reading other people's posts about how HORRIBLE the UK is scares me to death. We are doing this UK spousal visa as a back up plan. Her immigration issues will likely be sorted out at the end of June and it will just be a matter of processing a US SPOUSAL VISA. HOPEFULLY. I don't see myself living here. My home in LA is fantastic, has a garbage disposal, my laundry doesn't come out crunchy, I can drive wherever I please and find things open 24 hours. I am due to leave next week to return home to the US. I can't wait. At this point I would change my ticket if I could. Yes, we have been arguing ( in case you are wondering!!). I am housebound. She works a lot. The store is too far to walk to ( if you call it a store). I order TESCO grocery to be delivered online and that is the height of my week.
SORRY TO RANT, but I needed it. And we are not speaking to each other now, so I am held up in the bedroom. lol

In that case, I don't understand why you would go to all the bother and expense of applying for the UK spouse visa now, the purpose of which is to allow you to live, with your wife, and work in the UK. Could you not just continue to visit her until then?

In that case, I don't understand why you would go to all the bother and expense of applying for the UK spouse visa, the purpose of which is to allow you to live, with your wife, and work in the UK. Could you not just continue to visit her until then?

I have to second what larrabee is saying. It will take longer for you (and, I think, be more expensive) to secure your spouse's entry to the US, but if it would make you both happier, it might be worth looking at and investing in the long game. You can't put a price on your overall happiness.

It's a question of timing really....we wanted this as a back up in case the US immigration was going to be a problem or a way for me to come in without being questioned constantly. I have made several trips over and stayed for several weeks. At some point, I might get denied entry. I see what you mean about the expense OF COURSE but it is like an insurance policy, if you will.

It's a question of timing really....we wanted this as a back up in case the US immigration was going to be a problem or a way for me to come in without being questioned constantly. I have made several trips over and stayed for several weeks. At some point, I might get denied entry. I see what you mean about the expense OF COURSE but it is like an insurance policy, if you will.

Before I got my spousal visa, I'd been to the UK 17 times in two-and-a-half years for visits and never had issues, save one time that I got a bit of grump but was still let through. So long as you're bringing documentation that confirms you'll be going back to the States (I always traveled with a few paycheck receipts, letter of employment, letter of uni enrollment, a copy of my lease, itinerary for return-flight booking) and you're honest with the IO, things should be fine. Unless there's another reason to suspect detention may occur, in which case, you could simply apply for/obtain a visitor visa in advance of individual trips without going through the expense of a spousal visa. That could be a good short-term solution while you wait for your spouse to get a visa to settle in the US — particularly as you'll have to find another US sponsor if you give up your US job and are in the UK at the time of application.

It's a question of timing really....we wanted this as a back up in case the US immigration was going to be a problem or a way for me to come in without being questioned constantly. I have made several trips over and stayed for several weeks. At some point, I might get denied entry. I see what you mean about the expense OF COURSE but it is like an insurance policy, if you will.

I completely understand feeling  the need to have a back up. I'm the type that prefers to have a back up for my back up....
Just thinking though, in view of the fact that you would prefer to live in Los Angeles, that it would make sense to wait and see if your wife gets her US visa, or not before moving on to plan B.
Obviously you will do what you feel best but if you do pursue your UK visa, please try to find out if your solicitor knows his stuff, I'm referring to your comment that you will be presenting your package to "the the UK Embassy in Los Angeles" which appears, from what you said, to be on his instruction, unless, as I mentioned, this was just your assumption.

Before I got my spousal visa, I'd been to the UK 17 times in two-and-a-half years for visits ....

Now that's  love!

As I understand it an appointment has to be made at local office, biometrics, etc and then they take package and send it on to the NY office and then onto UK. The problem is that we have compiled documentation current to the present. If I wait, we will have to compile more docs and then pay the solicitor again to review and prep letter. I know its a faff. Should have waited I suppose but we just wanted a back up plan, like I said and are ( or maybe were...see my other post) excited to be together.

As I understand it an appointment has to be made at local office, biometrics, etc and then they take package and send it on to the NY office and then onto UK. The problem is that we have compiled documentation current to the present. If I wait, we will have to compile more docs and then pay the solicitor again to review and prep letter. I know its a faff. Should have waited I suppose but we just wanted a back up plan, like I said and are ( or maybe were...see my other post) excited to be together.

I just read your other post...wow. The people here are really good at coming up with the sort of suggestions and advice that you are looking for there. I'm more a bit of an old cynic of the mind that you might be best just to cut your losses and get out. Maybe though, if your wife gets her US visa and you set up as a family there, life will seem rosier, and you will get on a bit better? I'm not sure that I can see, with all that you have said, that it will work out for you, yourself or you as a couple living in the UK.

To get back to this topic though, if you do apply for your UK spouse visa, you are correct that by delaying the application, you would need to update the evidence that you submit because of the dates. Maybe though, you would not need to use the solicitor next time, after all, you will have all the template already, right? Also, most people choose to do it by themselves in the first place anyway so it is absolutely possible to have a successful outcome as long as you are very careful.
After you submit your online application you will then have the opportunity to book your biometrics appointment, you can take this in LA, but you will have to send it to the New York hub, they don't take it from you at the biometrics appointment.

ok thanks for the info on the UK spousal visa process. As for the relationship I am going to consider it a rough patch at least for now. It doesn't make it feel any better to have come to the realization that we weren't as compatible as we thought.

ok thanks for the info on the UK spousal visa process. As for the relationship I am going to consider it a rough patch at least for now. It doesn't make it feel any better to have come to the realization that we weren't as compatible as we thought.

I hope that my comments didn't make you feel worse.

Yes, I agree with larrabee about everything but the cut your losses bit. I read your post and am very sad for you that things are not going well so early on. I know that LDR is a whole different beast than dealing with someone in person...actions speak louder than words and such...but you two shared a strong connection that resulted in marriage. I'm sure that many married couples here could comment on their experiences and give you advice on how they dealt with their differences long term. Don't give up, you guys fought for something special for so long with all the long distance, see if your wife would go to counseling with you? I'm sure a professional sees your exact situation regularly, and can give you both some unbiased tips on how to communicate better and resolve your disagreements.

And yes, just update the papers yourself, insert new documents, write the letter yourself....if your solicitor thinks that biometrics forwards the docs for you, wouldn't trust him though. I know it feels better to have a professional check things over (I know at times I debated about hiring one)....but yes, you have the hard part done (knowing what to submit and a template), updating it will be easy.

Now that's  love!

Right? And most of mine were weekend visits: Fly out of PHL Friday evening after work, arrive LHR early a.m. Saturday, fly back to PHL Sunday late afternoon (landing Sunday night on the east coast), go to work Monday morning. Think I'm still jetlagged!

Right? And most of mine were weekend visits: Fly out of PHL Friday evening after work, arrive LHR early a.m. Saturday, fly back to PHL Sunday late afternoon (landing Sunday night on the east coast), go to work Monday morning. Think I'm still jetlagged!

Good Lord!!!
When I used to visit my parents in the UK twice a year, I wouldn't go for less than three weeks as "it wasn't worth it." Having said that, that might just have been an excuse to get the extra time off work!