Have you both been here 3.5 years? If you have been here for 1 year on a work permit (which is now defunct), how were you here for 2.5 years prior?
Yeah...this thread should be called "confusing situation" rather than "Tricky Situation"...
However, mcollins, I do feel for you, since I HAVE to go back to the States in just 6 days and apply for my spousal visa there. Hey, I don't want to leave my husband here and go over 4000 miles and be seperated from him for any length of time...I'm torn up about it, crying all the time...but, I just keep telling myself that I WILL get the visa and that then I won't have to worry about it anymore (well, at least won't have to worry about it for another 2 years, anyway), it will be DONE and I will be here and there will be no more hyperventilating about it.
Seriously, I don't know what YOUR options really are. You probably will HAVE to leave. The good news? Go through the right steps and YOU WILL BE BACK. That's what I am holding on to anyway. I hope this encourages you as well. Keep your chin up.
Sincerely,
~Autumn