Please help, as I have not found any threads on this forum regarding this issue. I do apologize in advance, its a bit lengthy.
A bit of history first. My husband and I got engaged after about two years of a long distance relationship. Found out we were expecting a baby 8 months after that. I made the decision to have the baby here in the US since I was working, had decent insurance and two older children from my previous relationship. It gave me time to discuss with them and fiance about the best options for us all. (Albeit my eldest was 20 and independent for the most part I still felt it important to include him).
The decision was made that I would move to UK after a lot of tears and back and forth. It wasn't a decision made lightly but in the end we found it would be easier for me to enter UK than Husband to enter here (financially speaking). He owned a house and made considerably more than I did.
I applied for a fiance visa in Jan 25th 2011 and by Feb 11 received an email it was granted . I also applied for a UK passport for the baby but it took 6 months to receive it. Which ate up most of my UK visa time.. leaving me with just 18 days left on it. Baby was already a year old when we headed across the pond. Anyway arrived in UK Aug 1 and immediately made arrangements to get married at register office. Time was of the essence. Could not get a date before Sept 24, 2011 even though I explained the situation.
The problem is I never changed my status after marriage. I mentioned to DH several times that we needed to take steps to change visa, he said not to worry or they'll probably send some notice etc..etc... Well I eventually gave up, stop mentioning it and settled into UK life (somewhat). Within two to three months of marriage found out we were expecting our second child. Another unexpected surprise.
I missed my family and friends and wanted to spend Christmas 2012 in US, that's when I decided to contact border control to find out if there would be any problem re-entering the UK once I left. I was naively expecting to hear " you overstayed so you will need to pay a fine and submit documents within 10 days etc.." I never expected to hear I needed to go back to US and re-apply from there or be denied. I explained I was married and we had two children 23 months and 2 months old, owned our own home, and never used any public funds. Answer was the same. (We did use the NHS for the birth).
So I'm back in US now. Traveled with children in Nov, applied for spousal visa in May. I have not heard anything since June 3rd. stating my application was received in Sheffield. I sent it through NY and not priority. I'm hoping that's why it's taking so long. I'm very worried there could be a problem. I have read they don't generally keep families apart, but based on the new rules that may have changed.
Does anyone have any idea what i should expect or time frame? I realize we made a foolish mistake but will they really deny a spousal visa? If that's the case then we need to make other plans in a hurry, but the wait is awful. Not knowing is the worst part. Please any information will be helpful.
Thanks