Tired of Waiting

I hate this waiting, My fiance' and I were going to apply for our Visa last Summer, but while I was there in April the benefits office sent a notice for renewal of his ESA.. He sent everything in back in June, Today Marks 200 days since it was sent in, His esa expired in November but he's still being paid, but we haven't recieved the renewal paper from the DWP. I know DLA is what gets us passed the Requirement, but They will count all benefits along with the DLA and his esa is a Huge chunk of what he gets a month, and it includes the council tax and his apartment benefit that has something to do with the ESA, so we can't apply till all the paperwork is in order. I'm so tired of being apart, and I refuse to come across without a Visa at this point partly due to the fact I have the money for the Visa and don't want to risk spending it on holiday. March 28th marks a year since I've been in the UK and I don't see us having the paperwork by then :/ it's so frustrating