Goodbye, Uk-Yankee.

I am sorry to say, it's all over for me. Today, he dumped me. I am crying and shaking, and I don't know how to get past this. A week ago, we were still planning our move, and today it's over. I'm in such suck that I feel like I can't breathe.

Thank you all for helping me to plan out what I thought would be the best move in my life. Unfortunately, things didn't turn out that way for me.

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry (((hugs)))

Big big hugs!

If it does turn out to truly be over, take comfort that it happened now and not later. I know you have a great family to lean on now.

Big big hugs!

If it does turn out to truly be over, take comfort that it happened now and not later. I know you have a great family to lean on now.

I keep hoping he'll write me tonight and say it was a mistake, and it's not over.

But he said in no uncertain terms "we're done", and when I phoned him back, he had told me to stop calling him. So.. it seems things are truly over.

I'm completely devastated. 2 years gone.

It's definitely not 2 years gone.  These things help mold us and shape us for the future.  I had an 8 year relationship that ended abruptly.  Very hard.  I still don't know what happened for it to end, but I know my life went in a different direction as a result of the split and for that, I am very grateful.

You don't have to leave just because that is over.  I originally joined because I was looking at a job that would keep me in the UK for a month a year.  It didn't happen, but I still hang around here. 

You don't have to leave just because that is over.  I originally joined because I was looking at a job that would keep me in the UK for a month a year.  It didn't happen, but I still hang around here. 

I guess I'll probably still poke around. Maybe I can make some friends? Who knows.

I'm trying to stay away from the visa forum, though, since that was what I was planning, and it just tends to remind me it won't happen. Although.. on the plus, it does remind me that at least I won't have to spend so much money.

I guess I'll probably still poke around. Maybe I can make some friends? Who knows.

Absolutely. We'd love to keep you around!!   

Give yourself plenty of time to heal though.  Relationships ending can break us, but we heal and then they make us.  But it takes time and give yourself time.

I am so sad for you.   

But you should stick around because you never know what the future holds.  We've probably all suffered heart ache and survived.  Big BIG hugs.

I had a dream last night that he and I were still together; and that we had moved in together. Of course, when I woke up and realized what had happened, the tears started all over again. I can't seem to get myself to stop crying.

So, I'm making a last effort to try and fix things.

I had his address from when he wrote it down for me last time I was there, so I'm sending him something he's always wanted, with a note saying "This is something I always wanted you to have, and since I had your address, I thought why not? I expect nothing in return; just enjoy it. Consider it a thank you for the good times, and a sorry for the bad."

Nothing will likely come from it, but if not... I can say I tried all I could.

I don't really think that's a good idea as he told you not to contact him any longer. But I suppose if nothing else, it will make you feel better.

I don't really think that's a good idea as he told you not to contact him any longer. But I suppose if nothing else, it will make you feel better.

I agree.  If I told someone not to contact me, I'd expect them to respect that.

Oh I am so sorry for you, don't worry about sending him the gift/note.
You did what you felt was right for you and what will help you get through this time, you were together for two years after all, not two weeks!
Good luck, take care and be good to yourself 

Very big hugs to you. Endings are never easy, but it does make you stronger in the end. We never want these things to happen, these horrible endings to what was supposed to be happily ever after, but there is always a reason for it.

When my 8 year relationship with my former fiance ended in a truly crappy way, I thought the world ended. At the time I couldn't imagine ever smiling again. I later learned he wasn't the one and that I was going to be able to love again, laugh again, and although it took time, it happened. As was mentioned above, it wasn't time wasted. Those years helped shape me into who I am today. I learned a lot about myself, about what I want and didn't want. Despite the crappy end, I still cherish so many memories from those 8 years.

Be easy on yourself, take time to grieve, but always look forward. Don't let this stop you in your tracks, but make baby steps forward, even if it feels like one step forward and two steps back for a while.