How to find ways to cope in the UK. Help!!!

I will have to definitely do a good supermarket sweep and check everything out. I've actually, because of my husband, started to take an interest in curry. Its something I've never tried before while living in the states. My fav right now is the coconut Korma.

It sounds to me like you are doing AMAZING.  A job already?!?  Holy cow!!

I did a course on expatriation/repatriation in the US.  What I learned gas proven very true for me.  About 6 months in, you may be at "rock bottom".  Just know now that if that happens, you are normal.     Working is going to help in so many ways (give you some independence and something to get out of your jammies for).  Also try to find some activities that you can do with your husband (new for him too).  And definitely do something for yourself as well.

I just had a baby 6 months ago.  OMG, steep learning curve!  You don't want your initiation into the NHS to be while you are pregnant.  And it's hard on a marriage.  Enjoy time just the 2 of you for at least a year or two.  You have lots of years left for babies!

Thank you everyone for hearing me vent...

Of course.    

I agree with everyone who has posted, 2 weeks is such a short time so do give yourself a break! And, if makes you feel better, I'm British and moved back here last year after a long time in the US and then Asia, and I suffered from culture shock! It took me a while to get used to everything that was different for me. It didn't help that I sound British but struggled with my debit card and pin, with coins, and many other things!

Good luck in your new job, and with your new life in the UK 

Thank you fruitgum. I could only imagine what a culture shock that was from the US to the UK then to Asia.. I'll give it some time of course.. Not as easy as i thought but this had helped loads.

Have you told your husband how you're feeling?  Not just a casual mention but a good sit-down conversation?  When I moved over as a student, the best way for me to cope with the changes and the homesickness was to simply vocalize how I was feeling.  I knew my husband was not feeling the same but just sharing with him helped me to accept it myself.

I am nervous about moving to the UK permanently in the next couple of weeks.  I know that it will be an adjustment.  We have purposely made plans to do things in the first few months that I am there.  Some are small day trips like a visit to London to see the poppy installation at the Tower of London.  Others are extended weekend trips.  I am looking forward to these trips which has already helped.  Does your budget allow for a small trip?  The UK is full of amazing places to visit.  Maybe just start with a day out at a place that you want to see, just you and your husband and make it special.   Groupon usually has some good deals.

Also, let yourself feel.  Don't bottle up your emotions.  Sometimes having a good cry can make you feel so much better.  You are going through a big transition and have already made a ton of progress!  Keep at it.  It does get better as you get more familiar  with your knew home.  Take this time to really get to know where you're living on your own terms.  Good luck with everything!

Actually beatlemania, we just had another in depth convo about it as we also did lady night which helps but also is hard for him to understand. At times he seems like he's a little frustrated because he does want for things to be easier for me... We do want to take done trips but between him working and me hopefully starting soon that would have to wait.. When will you be arriving? Have you visited here before?

It's good that you guys are communicating.  Hopefully he can help.  He probably will get frustrated (I know my husband does) but sometimes him telling me that I'm wallowing too much helps me to realize that it's not so bad.  You've already done a ton for only having been there for two weeks so I have no doubt that you will settle into your new life and thrive before long.

I have visited the UK several times since 2010.  Studied abroad there (where I met my husband) and lived there for a year while I studied for my masters degree.  I know that I like the UK and am excited about being there (already incorporated some genealogical research opportunities into an upcoming trip, woohoo ancestors!) but this is the first time that I will be going there with the intention of remaining there.  It's daunting.  The husband arrives on the 18th and we jet back to England on the 26th.   

You will do great!! . And its nice to have your hubby be with you when you travel. May in ask what area you're moving too?

Hi Nessa!

I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time adapting, but don't feel like you're alone in this. I've been dealing with similar feelings and tougher issues with trying to place my daughter in school. I moved to London in March and it's been a tough adjustment. I did the long distance thing with my husband for over a year and every time I would visit the UK - I loved it. Living here and visiting are two totally different things.

You should be so proud of yourself securing a job interview, like others have said, it can take months to secure interviews/employment. I wish I could start seeking work, but with my 9 year old not in school and my husband's family living in Surrey - it's not an option at the moment. In my opinion, 2 weeks is a short time to judge your situation. It takes balls to uproot your life, move somewhere new and adjust to a completely different way of life. Give yourself some time..

Talk to your husband and let him know you're having a hard time. Try and bond with his children, keep plugging away in the job market and try to join an activity, gym or  group. You can meet some nice people that way. I'm not sure where you live, but if you're in London - I can meet up with you sometime. Hang in there!

Yeah, I am looking forward to seeing him next week.  I told him in all seriousness that I very well may not get on that plane if he wasn't here to help me.  I'm heading to Essex, outside of Southend-on-Sea.  Where are you located?

Thank you so much LittleMissSarcasm.... I'm really sorry to hear about the difficulty you're having with placing your daughter in school, if you don't mind me asking but are the schools not being accepting? Or is your daughter not happy with the schools?...  It's a relief that I'm not alone in this. My husband certainly has been trying his hardest to help and be understanding but its much different to be able to talk to others who can truly relate. I wish more then anything to be able tonmeet with anyone who cab relate but I live in Newcastle which is up North.. And I'm pretty sure I may be the only American in my town of North Shields lol...  Beatlemania I'm happy to hear that your hubby is being so supportive.. Definitely keep us informed of your arrival

Thanks!  It definitely helps that he's there for me.  I am in awe of those who are just able to move without an emotional break down.  I will let you know how it goes.  There are several members of this forum who are from up north so hopefully you'll be able to find someone.  Let me know if you ever wander south.  Keep us up to date on your progress because we're all rooting for you.

Thank you very much Beatlemania safe travels toyou Aand your hubby, I'm looking forward to hearing how everything goes