English husbands

I said geriatric. I dont know your age, but I doubt its what i've witnessed many, many times in the pub...maybe its because they're so old that they've said it all... 

Or maybe they were talking about you before you noticed them and they didn't want you to hear what they were saying...   

Expat - I find that too, I crave silence more than I used to...I get a bit irritated when there is too much "talking for the sake of talking" going on around me...

Fine, but don't you see my point ?
Just look at the tilte of the thread.

Yes I get it and so does everyone else.

The person who started the thread is obviously married to an English guy. Not Scottish. Not Welsh. Not Irish. Not Swedish. Not Japanese. English.

Yes I get it and so does everyone else.

The person who started the thread is obviously married to an English guy. Not Scottish. Not Welsh. Not Irish. Not Swedish. Not Japanese. English.

Evidently you didn't.

So you're not offended or put out that it says English and not British?

My apologies.

So you're not offended or put out that it says English and not British?

My apologies.

Not at all.

So what is your point then? It must be too subtle for the likes of me.

So what is your point then? It must be too subtle for the likes of me.

Nah, not so.
It was about wives who want to change their husband.
Scroll back some and you will see that.
Better still, look at the opening post on this thread.

I didn't think that's what the original post was about, it was more an observation wasn't it?

Anyway don't we all change somewhat during a relationship in some way or another? Two years ago I was a high flying career girl, travelling all over the world with my work and generally living it up.  Now I'm a stay at home mum.  I've changed. So what?

Are they all quiet?

I have been married for 9 years 4 months and have to say I have never met anyone who is so quiet.

He won't talk about his "feelings" or about anything else, any advice?

I know his dad is the same way along with his brother. I hope it's just his family!

My post was just a question to ask if men in England are like this. As it runs in HIS family, very quiet men,  I was just thinking it was the way he was brought up.

Nah, not so.
It was about wives who want to change their husband.
Scroll back some and you will see that.
Better still, look at the opening post on this thread.

 

Adding anything else into it is not needed. He is English, how should it have been listed? The Almighty Husbands of the Islands of the United Kingdom? get real. I think you have nothing better to do than change the meaning of a question.

When did I mention I wanted to CHANGE him? I must be going blind....

I DO NOT want to change him. I married him and I love him for who he is and always will.
I just wanted to know if anyone else finds their ENGLISH husband to be the same. And any advice to get a man to talk more.

You mean you didn't like him the way he was ?

In all seriousness.  We were 23!  And slightly long haired jumper wearing beer drinking rubbish talking was VERY attractive to me AT THAT TIME!  But now we're forty.  And a Gap-wearing short-haired husband who has wide and varied interests is far more attractive to me.  For heavens' sake.  Everybody changes.  I hardly think my husband would like the extremely shy jamms and sneakers wearing person he first met who thought that she knew everything. 

Just because someone wants to talk about their husbands doesn't mean that they want to change them. 

You know, this seems to be an extremely sore point with you.  Could it be that you're interpreting your own wife's interest in your feelings as trying to change you?  Perhaps you should try to discuss this with her instead of having a go at total strangers.  You might feel better. 

Adding anything else into it is not needed. He is English, how should it have been listed? The Almighty Husbands of the Islands of the United Kingdom? get real. I think you have nothing better to do than change the meaning of a question.

C'mon. Inanswer to Britwife's question:

So you're not offended or put out that it says English and not British?

I already posted:

Not at all.

That seems clear enough to me at least.

You know, this seems to be an extremely sore point with you.  Could it be that you're interpreting your own wife's interest in your feelings as trying to change you?  Perhaps you should try to discuss this with her instead of having a go at total strangers.  You might feel better. 

Oh my. Here we go with the psychoanalysis again and, as usual, it is totally wrong.
1. It is not a sore point.
2. My wife is not trying to change me. We have a wonderful relationship.
3. I am not having a go at anyone.
4. I feel fine.

And for the avoidance of doubt I don't ever get sore, angry, or upset about anything posted on a message board.

Oh my. Here we go with the psychoanalysis again and, as usual, it is totally wrong.
1. It is not a sore point.
2. My wife is not trying to change me. We have a wonderful relationship.
3. I am not having a go at anyone.
4. I feel fine.

And for the avoidance of doubt I don't ever get sore, angry, or upset about anything posted on a message board.

If you say so.   

Well Cascode, all I can say is you do a really good impersonation of someone who enjoys conflict in his dealings with others.  I think many of us would appreciate it if you could modify your tone a little instead of responding to everyone's posts in a negative and argumentative fashion.

When did I mention I wanted to CHANGE him? I must be going blind....

I DO NOT want to change him. I married him and I love him for who he is and always will.
I just wanted to know if anyone else finds their ENGLISH husband to be the same. And any advice to get a man to talk more.

So you want him to talk more than he does now. Wouldn't that be a change to him that you want ? Do you see what I am getting at ?

Just to clear, I am just looking at the logic here. I am not passing an opinion on whether it is a good thing or a bad thing - that is not relevant to the point I am trying to get across.