Thanks all, the thing is, I didn't go into all the details but here's a collective response to some of your comments. I bought my parents a new computer for Christmas and put Skype on it and showed them how to use it. They thought the gift was too extravagant but when they found out what it was for were very pleased. There is a bit of denial going on, that's fair enough. But when I spoke to my mother on the Sunday before they were to come over I told her flat out, I didn't understand how everyone was acting. I said "I get a lot of, 'I cant' believe you are moving so far away from us' but not one single one of you have called me to ask me to get together or spend time together WHILE I'M HERE." It certainly makes me feel like they just don't give a duck. My mother knew I was very hurt when she cancelled on me, she could hear it in my voice and she actually said "you didn't go to a lot of trouble did you?" Knowing full well I made food and everything.
On all the holidays that have passed since I told them I was doing this, one or another of my siblings will mention this being our last whatever..etc. On Mother's Day my oldest sister just about threw a tantrum. Someone asked if I was selling everything (to which they replied they would wait til I was giving stuff away
) And I said yes, I have to pretty much leave everything and my oldest sister puffed up like a two year old and said "yeah everything you love except your husband and your dogs, like your FAMILY" I had already said it before but I said it again, tearfully "this isn't easy for me me you know? It's very, very, very hard to leave my family and everything I've ever known, but this is something I want and have wanted all my life. I'm sorry that it didn't happen when I was younger but the opportunity was not there. It is now and I have to do it, I do not want to be an old bitter lady always saying "what if".
I have been open and honest and tried my best to be understanding but I am sick and tired of the bullshit at this point. If you are going to miss me so much then whey the hell don't you come see me NOW? It's just words, they don't care. They haven't offered to help a lick. Not the yardsale, not offered to give me and the boys somewhere to stay in the three months before I go. In fact at our yard sale my sister stopped by and wanted a library table. She actually expected my husband to take it to her place for her. She said "oh I know Derek will if i ask him" I said "you know, I don't think so, we've been moving this stuff around for three weeks and everything in our house, we're both pretty tired of hauling things around" Her husband has a truck. She said, well I'll come get it when ya'll feel more like moving it" REALLY?
? It makes me feel like I'm not leaving anything after all except my friends. Who to respond to someone who asked, I have one wonderful friend who has been there for me through all this, is excited and supportive and is giving us a going away party. I have other friends who are supportive, sad but happy for me so thank God for that. Not getting that from family either.
I hate to sound like a cry baby but damn this really hurts. A lot. I don't know what else I can do on my end. I pretty much just give up. Thanks for listening, having somewhere to unload is really helpful.
