Further update everyone! I was actually wondering if I should start a new thread, but seeing as I have no desire to summarize the story that is already at the beginning of the thread, decided I would give the update here.
When I arrived home today from work there was a horrible letter from the "Interventions & Sanctions Directorate". It said that
"According to our records you have no legal basis to be in the UK..." and "...As you have no lawful basic to be in the UK we are requesting that the Secretary of State for Transport revokes your driving licence..." It goes on to say that I should take steps to leave the UK immediately blah blah blah. It threatens me with a 10 year ban from entering the UK, 6 months in prison and a fine up to £5000.
What the

!!!.
I called the number on the back, was presented with 4 options, number 4 being that you think you don't fit into any of the previous 3 options. The person I spoke to then said they can't do or say anything to me. Instead, he gave me another number. When I called that number it gave more phone numbers, the one being relevant to me is the European applications number. I called that number which is the regular Liverpool number that I always call when I have a question about my UK residence card application anyway. They said they couldn't help me either.
So, all I can do now (after I write this) is write an email to the address provided on the letter.
This is ridiculous. I am here in the UK as a spouse of an EEA national. As you know, I had a UK residence card, it expired, applied for another one (since we were out of the UK for almost 4 years I don't qualify for ILR), it got rejected due to me forgetting to sign the payment form, had to travel to Norway for Christmas, was told by the Liverpool people to have proof of my spouse exercising her European rights when arriving back after Christmas, encountering a border who flat out refused to look at any of my paperwork but wrongly made me fill out a landing card and stamped my password with the hand written words "6 months for paperwork", applied for the UK residence card again, this time payment was successfully taken and today I get this letter!
I am guessing that computer systems around the Home Office are not linked up correctly. Why else would they send this to me?
After I got a hold of someone in Liverpool and causally mentioned that why would I get this letter anyway, since as the spouse of an EEA national don't even need the UK residence card though of course it makes life easier. He then said that I do, everyone that wasn't a EEA national needs a visa.
I replied that the UK residence card is not a visa, it is a document that only confirms the rights that I already have as a family member of an EEA national exercising her European rights. He flat out refused to believe me. I ever read this passage to him from the .gov website:
1. Overview
You may be able to apply for a residence card if you’re from outside the European Economic Area (EEA) and you’re the family member, or extended family member, of an EEA national.
You don’t need to apply for a residence card as a family member but it can:
help you re-enter the country more quickly and easily if you travel abroad
show employers you’re allowed to work in the UK
help prove you qualify for certain benefits and services
You must apply for a residence card or have a valid EEA family permit if you’re an extended family member.https://www.gov.uk/apply-for-a-uk-residence-card/overviewI asked him why the official website differed what he was saying. He just said "I don't know but you need a visa". He sounded just like the border agent we encountered coming back after Christmas. They are robots.
Remember, this is the same office that told me otherwise in December and did agree that the the residence card is not obligatory but sure makes my life easier.
Despite that disagreement, he was helpful and told me that if 2 more weeks pass and I haven't gotten my biometric instructions, to write to a certain email address.
Does any have any advice? Why are Home Office/Border Agents so ignorant of the law. I swear this whole episode makes me want to retrain as a immigration lawyer!