Well one thing you can do is educate those around you. There are so many misconceptions. For instance, many believe that people just move here and "sign on to benefits". We know that this is not reality for FLR folk.
Many think of us all....asylum seekers....EU migrants....all of us, as being here under the same conditions. It's understandable.....I've never seen the media make an effort to break it down. And this is also understandable....it's a dry topic.
But if you are at a party or family gathering and it comes up, you can mention that there are different kinds of immigrants. You don't have to wave the red flag like me.
As far as it being a price to pay to be together...I don't know. I refuse to speak to any notion of "fairness" any longer - more so to questions of morality. And ultimately to the fact that these are very destructive, ideological policies....immigrants do contribute, we are a net positive. The idea that we are takers says much more about the darkness in the mind of the accuser.