I just need to vent. My little brother is proposing to his girlfriend in a few weeks. But it all seems so forced by her family. I mean she was telling my mom back in July how she had to get married before her next school year started (teacher).. so aka summer break. She's worried her kids will be confused by a name change. First of all she teaches FIFTH graders, they'll get it, secondly she can keep her maiden name at school.
I could understand if the excuse was it's to hard to take time off during the school year etc. But confusion over a last name
So she's telling my mom they have to get married in August next year. Then her parents moved in on the pressure as well. Like wtf their not even engaged yet.
My mom also told them I need a good year of planning/saving to get there, plus I'm in a wedding in June so we can't do both.
Then the subject gets dropped for a while.
Yesterday my brother text me a pic of the ring he just bought and said I'm proposing December 16. Aw sweet yay, also thinking I'm off the hook for August.
My mom text me today saying her dads already paid for the venue. How? Their not even engaged! So I ask my brother and say is there absolutely no surprise in this engagement? She must know everything if her parents took him to their jeweller to buy the ring and booked a venue. He gets all sheepish and says yes it's booked but not set in stone.
These people must have money. Anyways, so I keep asking for the date and he finally gives it to me. October next year. Fair enough we can probably swing that finance wise etc.
Then it dawns on me..my visa expires the day before the wedding. So I go back to him to tell him this. And his response was something along the lines of renew it early then. Well I can but I'm doing postal service next time so I'm not sure how long it'll take and I can't chance that. Then he tells me to just not renew it, because I already live here it's not that big of a deal I'm just going on vacation and coming back.
So then I go through a huge explanation of what my visa is, what happens if I don't renew, what happens if I over stay etc. And he says "I’m confused by this.. it’s not like you’re traveling for work and you already live in England. Idk why you have to have a visa "
I literally sent him the link to the uk visa site and told him to read up. I am so fuming by his ignorance. I don't expect people who live a visa free life to understand everything, but when I explain why I need it in great detail and that's the response.
Maybe I'm in the wrong here, but I just feel like the whole thing is so rushed, which isn't my business but then to have my reasoning why I possibly couldn't go be shut down that. I just feel like it's her family that matters. Yes, the wedding shouldn't be planned around me and my family but a little consideration is nice.
Their not even engaged yet. Sigh
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