Hi Everyone

My wife and I are new to the forum and have a few questions regarding our current situation. I'm British, born in the UK and have US citizenship as well. I have lived in the US since 99. My wife is from the US. We have known each other for about 15 years, been in a relationship for 6, and were married in the states about 18 months ago.
I've just found out that my stepfather has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (terminal) and my mum is not doing well at all. Due to this my wife and I have decided to start the process of moving back to the UK to be there for my family and apply for a spousal visa, however there are obvious hurdles that we need to overcome before this can become a reality.
Can anyone please provide any links to concise, detailed, and easily understandable information regarding the spousal process as a whole? I am finding the official gov.uk docs convoluted and confusing.
A few months ago we moved from New York to California, where we have literally just got settled in our new home and received this awful news. I decided to take some time off around our cross country relocation, which in hindsight considering this situation is not ideal.
These are the options I have gathered from my own research over the past week. If I misunderstood the criteria affecting my options, I would greatly appreciate it if someone could correct me, clarify, shed some light etc.
1) I am aware that one of the possible routes is to apply prior to either of us entering the UK with a letter of future permanent employment in the UK stating a salary (that won't be a problem)
The second requirement in this scenario is to provide bank statements with 6 months of pay stubs from a previous/current employer. This is the issue that I am running into as I now regretfully took time off work to move. So this option does not work for us.
2) Another option I have come across is to have around 62,500 GBP in savings that have not gone below that amount over the last 6 months. Unfortunately while we have ample savings we don't quite match that criteria either.
3) This brings me to the 3rd option. We both get to the UK as quickly as possible and visit my family when they need us the most, and while I'm there I find permanent work proving sufficient salary (which again is not a problem) and stay in the UK while my wife leaves the UK and heads back to the States, and starts the application process from the US.
It is my understanding that this is most likely our only viable option?
My wife and I do not want to be apart for what we are assuming can be up to 2 months, as we are very close and have literally spent every day together for the past 6 years. That being said we realize we may not have a choice...
Based on our situation I have some questions:
a) Am I correct in thinking this is this our only option?
b) After my wife applies for her visa in the US does she have to wait there for an in person interview? I have seen this may be the case
c) In the meantime does she have to stay in the US or can she travel to a neighboring EU country so I can visit her at the weekends while we wait for approval?
d) Where is the visa sent upon completion? Her given address in the US?
We need and want to be there soon for my parents but realize we need to do this properly.
Any helpful advice would be very much appreciated. Hoping another possible option exists otherwise we are assuming option 3 is the way to go?
Cheers