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Going through all this while pregnant?!
« on: May 18, 2018, 12:03:41 AM »
Bit of a mini panic-rant, sorry. My UKC husband and I were married on May 4th here in California and are very early in the application process- my biometrics appointment is tomorrow afternoon. We're going Priority. He's already back in the UK as he used up all his holiday for the wedding. The plan was for me to button up my life here, ship a bunch of stuff over and (fingers crossed) hit the ground running sometime in July. I'll still be working remotely for my US employer.

And then this morning we found out I'm pregnant. Early days, but enough that I'm fatigued and feel vaguely ill a lot of the time. Has anyone else been so unexpectedly blessed while trying to make the move? Was it easy enough to switch from your US OB-GYN to a GP/midwife? How did you manage to pack up your US life while staying rested, hydrated, and not doing any heavy lifting?  How will I cope without the baby section at Target?

Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom.


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #1 on: May 18, 2018, 07:57:31 AM »


How will I cope without the baby section at Target?

Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom.


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Asking the important questions now!!

Good luck to you. I don't have any advice other than to find a large Boots with a Mini Club section.



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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #2 on: May 18, 2018, 08:55:12 AM »
Congratulations!

I've had two babies in the UK.  The UK is VERY hands off in pregnancy - which I think is a good thing.  They only become hands on if a problem is found.

In the UK, though all depends on trust:

8-10 weeks you have a booking in appointment with the midwife.  They take bloods and family history.

12 weeks - ultrasound scan at the hospital to date the pregnancy.  Lasts all of two minutes.  ;)  Can be combined with a blood test to give a score for high risk/low risk of choromosonal abnormalities.  A bit archaeic and inaccurate.  I got a high risk result in my last pregnancy.  I could have had amnio on the NHS but at a risk to the pregnancy.  We chose to pay privately for a Non-Invasive blood test that pulls the baby's DNA profile for £500.  We found out that baby was absolutely fine.  Not a fun phone call to get though!

16 weeks - midwife.  They *may* try to find the baby's heartbeat.  Not all do this early

20 weeks - anomaly scan at the hospital.   This is the one where they do loads of measurements and check all of baby's organs and such.  Some will tell you the gender if desired.

Then you see the midwife every 4-5 weeks for blood pressure and urine checks.  They'll also measure your belly with a measuring tape to ensure you are growing properly and listen for the heartbeat.  If anything is off, they'll refer you to an obstetrician. 

Exciting times!! 


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #3 on: May 18, 2018, 10:13:02 AM »

I've got a story for you:
When my wife was pregnant, we got it in our heads to go to Yo Sushi.  This was 14 years ago when sushi was till a novelty and we were asking the Japanese waitress about what dishes contained raw fish and what could my wife eat while pregnant.  The Japanese waitress told us "What do you think Japanese women eat in Japan? They eat raw fish constantly.  Are you crazy?"

I've had two kids here in a similar manner to KfDancer, and I can assure you that it will really be OK.  There's plenty of horror stories no matter where you go, just ignore them. You will be fine.   Just enjoy the fact that the birth is free and once you can use the NHS you no longer need to worry about healthcare for your family as long as you don't vote Tory. 



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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #4 on: May 18, 2018, 10:36:25 AM »
I heard something on the news last year that the UK doesn't test for Group B strep and you should opt to pay privately for it. Anyone know?

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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #5 on: May 18, 2018, 10:38:43 AM »
I heard something on the news last year that the UK doesn't test for Group B strep and you should opt to pay privately for it. Anyone know?

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This is what it says on the NHS website about it:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/group-b-strep/


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #6 on: May 18, 2018, 11:13:38 AM »
I heard something on the news last year that the UK doesn't test for Group B strep and you should opt to pay privately for it. Anyone know?

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Correct.  I've always paid £35 to have it tested for at the end of my pregnancy.


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #7 on: May 18, 2018, 11:34:35 AM »
Congratulations allibinky!   [smiley=balloon.gif]

Enlist the help of friends if you need to, to help you with the move. :)
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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #8 on: May 19, 2018, 04:04:48 AM »
Thanks for the info and reassurance, internet-friends! Very interesting to read of the hands-off approach, and will be sure to ask about Group B strep.

Biometrics are done and everything is on its merry way to Sheffield. Will rope in friends for the heavy lifting and build lots of naps into my schedule in the coming weeks.


Good luck to you. I don't have any advice other than to find a large Boots with a Mini Club section.


Our local Boots is teeny, but I think there's a big one a couple of towns over. And I even know what bus will get me there!


When my wife was pregnant, we got it in our heads to go to Yo Sushi.  This was 14 years ago when sushi was till a novelty and we were asking the Japanese waitress about what dishes contained raw fish and what could my wife eat while pregnant.  The Japanese waitress told us "What do you think Japanese women eat in Japan? They eat raw fish constantly.  Are you crazy?"



aaaaand now I want sushi.

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March 2017-Officially dating
October 2017- Decide I'll be the one moving
May 4 2018- Married in US
May 11 2018- Online application submitted
May 18 2018- biometrics
May 30 2018- confirmation email
June 26 2018- decision made!
June 28 2018- UPS return of passport- APPROVED!


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #9 on: May 19, 2018, 06:13:56 AM »

Our local Boots is teeny, but I think there's a big one a couple of towns over. And I even know what bus will get me there!


Boots deliver so once you know what you want, you can order online to save time and energy.  :)
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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #10 on: May 19, 2018, 08:13:55 AM »
Boots deliver so once you know what you want, you can order online to save time and energy.  :)
You can even order things to your local Boots if what you want doesn't add up to the free home shipping amount. It's awesome!
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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #11 on: May 19, 2018, 08:34:38 AM »
Join the Boots parenting club, download the Boots app and connect your advantage card to it for great vouchers. You will also earn 10 points per £ on baby items instead of the normal 4. Also, Google Emma's Diary to get vouchers for free pregnancy packs which can be picked up from Boots or Argos.

I also see people with vouchers for formula and baby food but I'm not sure how to get those so Google will be your friend.

And get to know your Mini Club rep at your Boots. She will help you order anything you need through Boots.com at the till. (I work at Boots, if you can't tell. Lol)

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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #12 on: June 08, 2018, 11:31:16 AM »
Congratulations and good luck! This is a super hard transition that takes a lot of emotional and physical energy but you'll make it through and then you'll be focused on settling with almost no thought to this part of the journey.

At least on the NHS you won't walk away with a five-figure medical bill. (My surprise pregnancy was in a year I had opted for a bare bones health insurance plan because I figured "I'm pretty healthy.")
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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #13 on: August 20, 2018, 02:47:51 PM »
Congratulations!  I’m in a similar situation, I turned my spouse application in last Friday and then found out we are pregnant later that day!  My husband flys home August 24th so it’s going to be the longest waiting period before we can reconnect. I’m scared/nervous/excited my mom is a labor & delivery nurse so not having her by my side is going to be really hard.


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Re: Going through all this while pregnant?!
« Reply #14 on: August 30, 2018, 03:58:47 PM »
Congratulations!  I’m in a similar situation, I turned my spouse application in last Friday and then found out we are pregnant later that day!  My husband flys home August 24th so it’s going to be the longest waiting period before we can reconnect. I’m scared/nervous/excited my mom is a labor & delivery nurse so not having her by my side is going to be really hard.

Congrats! It may be the longest waiting period you'll have to endure, but I'm sure you'll find plenty to keep you occupied. I recommend you start by eating as much Mexican food as possible before you get on the plane.

Everybody on the forum was absolutely right about the hands-off approach here. I landed at Heathrow at exactly 12 weeks pregnant and didn't get in to see a midwife until nearly 16 weeks due to registration processing and needing to see my GP first. Nobody but me seemed fussed about the delay. It might be worth asking your husband to bring home a registration form for your planned doctor's surgery. That way you can have it all filled out and ready to submit as soon as possible.

Feel free to message me if you want to chat about dropping yourself in a very different medical environment at this very interesting time.  :)
May 2010- Met on a work trip
2010-2016- Worked for same company on different continents
March 2017-Officially dating
October 2017- Decide I'll be the one moving
May 4 2018- Married in US
May 11 2018- Online application submitted
May 18 2018- biometrics
May 30 2018- confirmation email
June 26 2018- decision made!
June 28 2018- UPS return of passport- APPROVED!


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