Discouraged

Ladies, all three of you.  GO ROAM TARGET.  I don’t even love a Target but even though I’m exhausted, I would go walk around for like 4 hours right now if I could.

I do love Target   I went and bought cowboy boots yesterday, with the justification that I can't really get them in England so I may as well buy a nice pair while I'm still in Oklahoma

I hate to whine so much. But this seems like the place to do it!!

Ladies, all three of you.  GO ROAM TARGET.  I don’t even love a Target but even though I’m exhausted, I would go walk around for like 4 hours right now if I could.

I would but I'm in the middle of no where and honestly window shopping and shopping period doesn't do much for me. plus just not feeling getting off my butt...

When I was waiting, I had it in my mind that I was going to get a refusal (for no particular reason) and I made peace with it and just planned on fixing whatever I had messed up and reapplying.

But I put myself through all of that for no reason. I ticked all of the boxes, got my fiance visa, moved to Scotland,  got married and successfully applied for my FLR(M).

You all will get your decisions soon enough and you'll be moving on with your lives.

The visa process is much like giving birth. Painful while it is happening but that pain is soon forgotten.

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Me and my husband compared the waiting game (not just with the visa, but in regard to our long distance relationship/closing the distance) to having to pee.

So you feel uncomfortable but not so bad and then it gets worse and worse. You're trying to unlock your door but you need to piss and it's uncomfortable and painful but the toilet is right there.....I am in the "I NEED TO PEE" stage LOL

Me and my husband compared the waiting game (not just with the visa, but in regard to our long distance relationship/closing the distance) to having to pee.

So you feel uncomfortable but not so bad and then it gets worse and worse. You're trying to unlock your door but you need to piss and it's uncomfortable and painful but the toilet is right there.....I am in the "I NEED TO PEE" stage LOL

LMAO I NEED TO PEE I NEED TO PEE I REALLY NEED TO PEE.....LOL

Me and my husband compared the waiting game (not just with the visa, but in regard to our long distance relationship/closing the distance) to having to pee.

So you feel uncomfortable but not so bad and then it gets worse and worse. You're trying to unlock your door but you need to piss and it's uncomfortable and painful but the toilet is right there.....I am in the "I NEED TO PEE" stage LOL

That is a perfect, if inelegant, analogy!

The distance part hasn't ever really bothered me. I was previously married to a submariner for nearly 20 years so long distance and limited contact is something I'm quite good at. I'm actually more shite at living with someone on a continual basis. Lol

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The distance part hasn't ever really bothered me. I was previously married to a submariner for nearly 20 years so long distance and limited contact is something I'm quite good at. I'm actually more shite at living with someone on a continual basis. Lol

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The distance is fine for a couple months. Two months, three. But once it got more than that I forgot what he smelled like. I forgot what his lips felt like, and his mannerisms.

It hurts to forget those things about your partner, someone you love so much. I think we handled it well, seeing as we're now married/applying for a visa but it hasn't been without it's struggles.

My least favorite thing is when people say I must be "used to it by now" You never get used to it!

SAME. It's like "the weekend yay!" but also not a business day lol!

ugh I want you guys to hear something next week. I mean ya'll HAVE to. It's getting into the 40-45BD range.

I actually prefer the weekends because it gives my anxiety a break. It's so nice to not be constantly checking my emails and wondering if someone is looking at my application right now. That's just me though.


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When I was waiting, I had it in my mind that I was going to get a refusal (for no particular reason) and I made peace with it and just planned on fixing whatever I had messed up and reapplying.

But I put myself through all of that for no reason. I ticked all of the boxes, got my fiance visa, moved to Scotland,  got married and successfully applied for my FLR(M).

You all will get your decisions soon enough and you'll be moving on with your lives.

The visa process is much like giving birth. Painful while it is happening but that pain is soon forgotten.

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That's pretty much my mindset at the moment. I can't be disappointed if I don't expect anything!

Also @TeamTollie I'm completely with you on feeling unmotivated. I normally enjoy decluttering and packing (as weird as that sounds, but I enjoy being organized) and I can't bring myself to do even that atm.

I also dread weekends because the days basically aren't worth anything. Plus, when I try to take my mind off my application, as soon as I remember it I have a sick feeling in my stomach. This process is so taxing

I work alone. So I'm sitting in here trying  not to cry, but also feeling lonely. Then if someone does talk to me the only thing I'm hearing nowadays is "VISA VISA VISA" and like....I get it...people are happy for me, they want to know. But I WANT TO KNOW TOO! D:

Just got a message from my mom - "Any news on your visa yet?" Like I wouldn't tell you as soon as I heard, you're my mom! LOL  It's difficult bc people mean well and are so well intentioned but as soon as I manage to get my mind off it, someone asks if we've heard news. No matter how many times you try to explain that you won't know until you know, people constantly ask if we have an update!  Okay, rant over

Just got a message from my mom - "Any news on your visa yet?" Like I wouldn't tell you as soon as I heard, you're my mom! LOL  It's difficult bc people mean well and are so well intentioned but as soon as I manage to get my mind off it, someone asks if we've heard news. No matter how many times you try to explain that you won't know until you know, people constantly ask if we have an update!  Okay, rant over

Yes. People just keep asking and asking....ugh!!! I'm already stressed, leave me aloneee!

That's pretty much my mindset at the moment. I can't be disappointed if I don't expect anything!

Also @TeamTollie I'm completely with you on feeling unmotivated. I normally enjoy decluttering and packing (as weird as that sounds, but I enjoy being organized) and I can't bring myself to do even that atm.

I also dread weekends because the days basically aren't worth anything. Plus, when I try to take my mind off my application, as soon as I remember it I have a sick feeling in my stomach. This process is so taxing

I hated the weekends too because it's like "welp no progress today" UGH

Right now I'm both excited and dreading Monday....when my package is due to arrive. I really, really hope you guys get your e-mails. The home office needs to get on it!

I actually prefer the weekends because it gives my anxiety a break. It's so nice to not be constantly checking my emails and wondering if someone is looking at my application right now. That's just me though.


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When I finally did get the e-mail, I was like "OMG someone actually looked at my application..." all that worrying....and who knows what I was doing when a person across the world was literally making my life decisions for me.

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Shame, I wanted you guys to see my kitty.