We've talked about it, but I fully understand that it's his body-his choice. I don't think he's keen on the idea, merely because while we both don't want children, I'm more adamant about it. This is a morbid scenario, but let's say something happened to me and I didn't make it and he ends up re-marrying someone who wants children. Unlikely...as he's expressed that he does't want children either. But as I said before, if I did get pregnant I would be mortified and miserable but I think he'd say, "well it's happened" I don't think it's as big of a deal to him. He's okay with or without a family. He's made it clear that he wants to be with me and doesn't really want anything else. I honestly think the idea scares him or makes him uncomfortable. I get it-it's a surgery and it's a huge deal to his reproductive organs. As far as I know, it's irreversible. Maybe the reasoning sounds crazy...I remember the first time we talked about it I felt a little disappointed that he wasn't automatically like "yes I'll do this for you" but the key word in there is for you. If he doesn't want to do it for him too, then I won't push it. We'll just have to use protection and be careful. He's said that once we've been married a while and we get older he will probably consider it, but I understand that it's a lot to ask a person. So I'm giving him time to process. It would certainly make our worries less, but I also don't want to pressure him into it. As much as I do NOT want children, the idea of tying up my tubes is frightening, regardless of how much easier it would make my life! I hope this made sense...In the end I don't mind using birth control/condoms. I just don't want any accidents. But like I said, I don't ever, ever want to pressure him into doing something that major if he's not 100% on board.
Good on you - that's a super reasonable way of thinking. You can't force anyone else to do anything to their bodies if they're not 100% in agreement, and there are always other options on the table.
I kinda let myself get talked into Nexplanon (I was on the pill when I moved to the UK) rather than making the choice 100% for myself. It was something we'd discussed a few times but I didn't really want to go through the procedure - not a massive fan of needles and whatnot.
That said, I wouldn't have it any other way. Nexplanon has been an absolute dream. The first couple of weeks were a bit rough - headaches every day, but they eventually subsided. The biggest perk has probably been my periods, though. I used to have the WORST, HEAVIEST, CRAMPIEST periods that would last for a week at a time. Now they are practically nonexistent (but still there for peace of mind, it seems. Or to annoy me. Don't know which.). The only other issue I've had that I think was related to the implant was a couple of months before it was due to be replaced, I had the WORST breakouts I've ever had in my life. But they eventually subsided, as well.
Since getting the first implant put in, I've been working in a hospital and I've seen many things... Needles and that just dont phase me anymore so the procedure is not even a blip on my radar at this point. Think I'm due again next year.
The first implant was put in by my GP about a year after I moved here. She laughed at me because I was like, "It's free? ? ?"
Then the removal / second implant was taken care of by a nurse at the GUM clinic at the hospital.
10/10 would recommend
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