Is it just me?

Do you ever get the feeling people genuinely don't like you? For the last few weeks, I've been feeling like I annoy everyone around me. Even the cat. I know it probably sounds stupid but it's just been on my mind more and more.

I try talking to people in different arenas and I just get the feeling of " oh not her again". Overall I don't care too much what people think of me but I have no friends at all here. I've been trying to get acquainted with people and it doesn't seem to be going well.

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. Guess I'm just feeling a bit down today.

Do you ever get the people genuinely don't like you? For the last few weeks, I've been feeling like I annoy everyone around me. Even the cat. I know it probably sounds stupid but it's just been on my mind more and more.

I try talking to people in different arenas and I just get the feeling of " oh not her again". Overall I don't care too much what people think of me but I have no friends at all here. I've been trying to get acquainted with people and it doesn't seem to be going well.

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. Guess I'm just feeling a bit down today.

Girl I feel that way all the time. Sometimes, especially now with my being sad and moody. I tell myself "they don't want to head your b*tching " then I get sad because I'm like "they don't like me"

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Do you ever get the people genuinely don't like you? For the last few weeks, I've been feeling like I annoy everyone around me. Even the cat. I know it probably sounds stupid but it's just been on my mind more and more.

I try talking to people in different arenas and I just get the feeling of " oh not her again". Overall I don't care too much what people think of me but I have no friends at all here. I've been trying to get acquainted with people and it doesn't seem to be going well.

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. Guess I'm just feeling a bit down today.

You should move to Wales!  Everybody is outgoing and friendly down here.  It's so cheery when I go to the grocery store.  I end up chatting with other shoppers, the person at the till, people in the car park... everybody!  The first time it happened, I thought the man at Aldi was hitting on me (bless him!)... sadly, it's just the outgoing Welsh personality.  Don't get me wrong... I still don't have friends nearby.  Nobody to go grab a coffee with, or whatever.  But when I go out, I do feel welcome and "connected".

If it makes you feel any better, I like you.  I know it's not the same online, vs. in person, but I think you're good people.  And if you lived near, I'd totally use my day with the car to meet up with you for coffee.  (I'd invite you over, but NOBODY gets that dubious honour 'til my house doesn't look like a deconstruction zone.)

You'll get there Kristie.  And then you'll reach a point where you really don't care if anyone likes you or not (called age).   

Sometimes I think people don't like me at work but then I've had 4 people give me either the bird or double V's today.  So I know I'm loved.     It's the British way.  The ruder they are, the more they love you! 

So you only need to worry if people are being overly friendly (though not in Wales).   

You should move to Wales!  Everybody is outgoing and friendly down here.  It's so cheery when I go to the grocery store.  I end up chatting with other shoppers, the person at the till, people in the car park... everybody!  The first time it happened, I thought the man at Aldi was hitting on me (bless him!)... sadly, it's just the outgoing Welsh personality.  Don't get me wrong... I still don't have friends nearby.  Nobody to go grab a coffee with, or whatever.  But when I go out, I do feel welcome and "connected".

If it makes you feel any better, I like you.  I know it's not the same online, vs. in person, but I think you're good people.  And if you lived near, I'd totally use my day with the car to meet up with you for coffee.  (I'd invite you over, but NOBODY gets that dubious honour 'til my house doesn't look like a deconstruction zone.)

Thanks Kimberly. As lovely as I know Wales is, I'm in love with Scotland. The people around my village are lovely and very kind.

I thinks it's more of an online thing. I'm in a few groups in there than here and I just feel like people overlook me or disregard anything I say. Like I said, I know it's probably just me over exaggerating.

I do wish I could've come to the meetup. I think meeting some of you would've at leasf make it feel like I have a crew here 

Thanks for thinking I'm good people

You'll get there Kristie.  And then you'll reach a point where you really don't care if anyone likes you or not (called age).   

Sometimes I think people don't like me at work but then I've had 4 people give me either the bird or double V's today.  So I know I'm loved.     It's the British way.  The ruder they are, the more they love you! 

So you only need to worry if people are being overly friendly (though not in Wales).   

That's silly! You're lovely so no one could NOT like you. I don't friend just anyone on Facebook 

Sometimes I think people don't like me at work but then I've had 4 people give me either the bird or double V's today.  So I know I'm loved.     It's the British way.  The ruder they are, the more they love you! 

4 people a day?  AND you are the person signing the paychecks?

I go through phases. My first job was AWFUL they didn’t even hide it sometimes that they didn’t like me because I was American.

This job is much better. I try to not be your “stereotype” American though because we have one of those too and people do not like that. They tell me this LOL

I think people can be hard to warm up to you here. You’ll get there it =) just keep being you

Who else can you be,if not you?? You will find your tribe, it takes time. If it's mostly online, maybe take a break from it. I think we are just finding out how dangerous phones can be on our mental health. You've been a really comfort to me the last couple of months. Do something that fills your cup and helps you feel you. Sending you peace.


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 You've been a really comfort to me the last couple of months.

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Aww that just made me tear up.  I meant it when I said keep in touch. Thank you for help.  You've been a comfort to be too. It's been nice knowing another nurse 🙂. I'm hoping once I pass CBT I can work and that'll help. I'm not used to not being dead on my feet busy.

4 people a day?  AND you are the person signing the paychecks?

4 people yesterday.  It’s not normally that high.  Usually only one or two.  Sometimes none and people are nice. 

I don’t sign the pay checks - they are safe. 

Most of the friends I have here are wives of my husbands friends. It's so nice when you can have time with another couple that you both like. Maybe you can put yourself out there for one of the wives?


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I'm sure it's just a case of you getting in your own head. It's hard if you already feel down and feel like you're a bit of an outsider to not also worry about if people actually like you or not. Try not to read too much into anything online or take it too personally. You seem like a lovely person

I'm sure it's just a case of you getting in your own head. It's hard if you already feel down and feel like you're a bit of an outsider to not also worry about if people actually like you or not. Try not to read too much into anything online or take it too personally. You seem like a lovely person

Thank you ☺️ I'm trying to nail to focus on it so much.

I think it's pretty normal to feel like that - maybe just don't listen to that little voice that is saying it? I get it when I'm feeling down & I don't have a single good reason to feel like that - so it helps to put my rational head on and say it's just not so.

The other thing - I don't change to fit what other people want, eff that. I moved here when I was 40 years old (fully formed adult) & I'm a lot older than that now. So when I see people talk about how they *try* not to talk like Americans or act like Americans or whatever, I admit that thought makes my soul die a little inside & think oh he££ to the no on that, for me. I am who I am. I mean inevitably some things will change the longer you are here - words, inflections, etc, you might do some stuff differently, it happens naturally, but no I don't *try* to change anything of the person I am (my voice or whatever), unless it's be a better person which has nothing to do with nationality. People seem to like me here more for just being myself & as soon as I open my mouth, you can be sure that people remember me - I sound like a hick. Hahahaha! But you know what, when I ring up a tradesman or repairman or whatever for a second time, they know exactly who I am & respond in a friendly way.

So just be you - I'm sure you're great just as you are!

Oh & I live in Yorkshire - people here are friendly. Well to be honest, I've found friendly people all through the UK. Just give it time & things have a way of improving as you go along.