We bought a shared ownership property in St Albans because we figured it would give us an opportunity to get on the property ladder, be closer to friends and family, and shorten our commute. We visited a few times before signing on the dotted line. It took 6 very long months but we finally purchased our first flat in the UK.
But honest to god every single day I regret moving to St Albans.
We generally liked it from the start and it appeared to have more shops and amenities than where we lived in Richmond. But I don't think we took the fact that the best area attractions require a car (and even a reasonably sized grocery store is a 35 min walk), and that the beauty of St Albans didn't extend to where we live. My child's nursery is supposedly outstanding and yet I can't help but feel we have taken a huge leap back from what we had in Richmond (which was outdoors and bilingual). I can't access many hobbies here without a car, and even the nursery parents are incredibly cliquey - they have a WhatsApp group and when I asked to join they said oh sure and then never did. Yes, my transport to work is easier.... When Thameslink flipping works!!! It costs £175/month more than my monthly pass did from Richmond (which afforded me 4 different modes of transport if one should be out of service).
I feel really far away from a social life that I built from scratch - I can't hop to Richmond easily on a Thursday evening for a row or a pint given the 90 min journey home (again, if Thameslink isn't having a coronary from another fault in their system). I feel isolated and I dislike where we are. I don't feel safe, either - on my walk back home from nursery with my son I have now seen ***5*** drug busts with local police. I wanted to get a bike but lol this is the number one area for bike theft in the country. When I called the police about alcohol fueled antisocial behaviour they basically said there was nothing they could do. So I just sat there and hoped no one would throw a bottle at our windows in the meantime.
What is most frustrating is that I can't air any of this - not to my spouse, to my in laws, or to my friends - now that we live so close everyone is offended that I am not in love with the area. I actually cheer myself up/make myself miserable by checking property listings back in Richmond. I can't help but feel we have made a terrible mistake moving here.
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