I'm Really in a Low Place and I just need someone to talk to

Hi,

I don't know much about FLR or ILR applications because I've only done the spouse settlement visa, but there might be ways to fix this. Is it possible to include a cover letter that explains the error or send additional information somehow? Don't give up hope that it can be corrected somehow.

As for feeling like a failure and feeling overwhelmed by the visa process, I completely understand. The pressure to get these things right feels like a monstrous weight sometimes because of all that is at stake. It sometimes feels like cruel and unusual punishment.

I made a mistake on my application that sent me into a full weekend meltdown. I somehow accidentally classified my application as a child's settlement visa instead of a partner. When I saw the mistake and saw I couldn't edit it, I nearly had a nervous breakdown because of all the effort and money we had put into it. I cried. I yelled. I told my partner I couldn't deal with the pressure anymore. I felt like I ruined everything.

I tried to contact VFS and couldn't get hold of anyone. I finally tweeted them and got an email address. I wrote and explained and someone replied that they'd send it to the correct department for an answer. I heard nothing back, so I simply crossed out the mistake and wrote "Partner Settlement Visa" ALLLLL OVER the front page and hoped common sense would prevail, and sent it off, still convinced I'd ruined everything. Three weeks later, VFS wrote back and basically said it was no big deal and it wouldn't affect the visa at all.

Many, many of us have made mistakes on these apps. They're very complicated, and we're all very nervous when we do them. Be kind to yourself. You're only guilty of being a human who is doing their best in a stressful situation.

Let's just try to see what can be done and go from there.

I also made a very stupid mistake on my application and didn't realize it till a week after I sent it in.

I can't do anything now but wait which is torture.
I have my husband to help me get through this horrible time...even if we can only video chat.  I'd give anything to have him here to give me a hug.

You will get through this.  Stay strong!!

Hello Everyone for your wonderful comments. I will try to add a cover letter to the supporting documents. I don't understand how after paying for the NHS Surcharge that they don't let you change anything. I noticed the mistake before I paid the final fee and there was a disclaimer that said make sure everything is correct. I did and I couldn't change the date. I don't know how this has happened. It's terrible.

Good Luck to everyone else on this visa application journey. We only know what we are all going through.

I really don't know what to do about this everything is riding on this visa application. I am so stupid that I made this mistake. I cant have my visa refused because of this dumb mistake. I dont't know what I'm going to do. I really feel like just ending it all because I feel so alone. I just dont know what to do. I wish I could put myself out of this hell. I dont know why I;m so stupid and awful. I'm a terrible waste of space and I don't know how I can exist. I am such an awful person and no one loves me. I am in just so much pain and I just want it to stop.

My heart is aching reading this because this process is a living hell unto itself that not to many people truly know. You are NOT a waste! It is as if the whole process is a gauntlet they dare you to get thru it with no help except for this site thank God! Everyone here is in your corner and it will work out. Xo

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Hi Missially thank you so much for your kind words. I hope so much that it works out. II have beeen up all night unable to sleep because of the anxiety. I can barely type this or call anyone for help. I feel so lost.

@greensad Looking at your past posts, this is not a recent problem. I see that you sought help from your GP 2 years ago but have you been to see them recently? Sounds like you could benefit from having your medication reviewed.

I sincerely hope you feel better soon.

@larrabee it's not. I have issues that are severe and easily trigger by extreme stress. I am having a lot of difficulty functioning and it just doesn't help that I don't have much support around me. I feel guilty about going to my GP because I have had physical ailments for some months now as well and I needed to seek help from a doctor. I just feel like even more of a burden for seeking help from them about this.

@larrabee it's not. I have issues that are severe and easily trigger by extreme stress. I am having a lot of difficulty functioning and it just doesn't help that I don't have much support around me. I feel guilty about going to my GP because I have had physical ailments for some months now as well and I needed to seek help from a doctor. I just feel like even more of a burden for seeking help from them about this.

Please don’t feel guilty about going to your GP again, your mental health is just as important as your physical health and you’re not a burden for needing some help.

My gp saved my life. When you get the right one, the relief is immediate. You need the right ear, the right support, the right advocate.

Please seek real life support. You’re worth it. We know it, your partner knows it and your gp knows it.


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I just wanted to say I hope you’re okay! The visa process is nothing short of stressful, but this forum is always here for you. They’ve been here for me in low times as well. Big hugs

Hang in there my friend. I don't suffer from clinical depression but this visa process sent me into a place I'd never been before - in the last month before my decision was made I all but stopped sleeping entirely, I cried ALL THE TIME, I was overeating and suffered from an ulcer. I was anxious every minute of the day and was obsessively checking over my application and refreshing my email. In the best of circumstances, this process is exhausting mentally and physically. Please take comfort from knowing that you are 100% not alone in your feelings and so so many people can empathize with you. I made a mistake on my visa application but caught it before I paid so I had to start over, which made me rethink everything after that. I would do exactly as the others have suggested and write a cover letter explaining the mistake, there are so many applications which have errors. If you want to try emailing Sheffield.SettlementDocsRequested@fco.gov.uk that is the email address that UKVI requests additional documents be sent to and I know several people who have proactively emailed documents there after they realized they were forgotten in their initial submittal. You will not receive a reply from that email address but they do definitely look at everything which comes in there. Just makes sure you have all of your application information on your cover letter and attach it to the email, and your email should also have all of your application information (name, application number, etc).
Please don't feel bad about seeking help for your metal and physical health, there is no shame in any of it whatsoever, and not least of all because we pay for it and you are entitled to care. And of course come here to all of us if you just need someone to hear you, this community cares!

Thank you all for your support and kind words. This is just a horrible process and this happens to me every time I have to go through it. I am glad I have a community here to vent and share how I'm truly feeling. For that, I am eternally grateful.

Sending you so many good wishes, Greensad. These visas are so intense. There's nothing wrong with feeling overwhelmed by them. We've all been there, that's why this forum exists! You have done one before, you can do this one!

How are you feeling today?