Isn't it a lengthy visa once you get through the process in the US though? Having to go through this 3 times in 5 years (or 4 if you start on a fiancé visa) is absolutely cruel. The home office does not base their policies on science though, only to support the trope they spout about discouraging immigration, so it isn't surprising they treat us so poorly. I have nearly needed to section myself at a few points over the past couple months between the genetic illness I live with and the stress caused by this process making me suicidal. I'm OK now, but there have been many times I was not and thankfully my husband is incredibly supportive. The visa process is causing me (and many others) physical harm at this point. As well as lost opportunity because employers do not see 3c leave as evidence of right to work in the future.
I can’t speak for all visas - my husband came to the USA on a fiancé visa. We waited over 9 months from application date - watching dozens of others who applied after us get processed in a few days, all because we were sent to a slow processing centre.
Once he arrived we had 90 days to marry then had to apply for his permanent residence. That took another few months. We didn’t get beyond that because we moved here.
I agree it’s cruel, and I am in the same boat. This was handled poorly and it is causing many of us harm in a lot of different ways. They don’t care. No matter the country they really do not care about individuals. Unfortunately it’s even worse of a feeling because we are helpless - endlessly beating down the doors of our MP’s or call centres to no avail. Not to mention how much it costs.
I’m sorry you’ve had a difficult time, and I can only hope this gets faster soon. The things we do to be with our loved ones is long reaching. I just keep reminding myself my husband is very supportive and that I love him, and if we want to be together it will have to be here because we can’t just pick and go anywhere. I do love it here, but I am not happy with this process at all.