Larabee has offered solid insight.
I’ll add to the questions. Remember you gave anonymity here which helps.
You mention that you’ve been blown off by U.K. recruiters (you won’t surprise anyone here with that comment). You mention that you have desirable skills. You mention a business in the USA.
If you moved here, what is “the dream”. Would you continue to operate your USA business from the U.K.? I don’t know the kind of business, so assuming it’s brick and mortar and unable to “move with you”.
If unable to move it, yeah, I get it. It’s COMPLETELY starting over. I know I don’t want to start over (again). So while I have my days of wanting to throw in the towel and escaping my current real life, I know that my life will be the same anywhere I live: work hard to pay the bills and hopefully have money leftover to have some fun with. As we had 3 HARD lockdowns we didn’t get to spend any money so…. Just working….
Where are “you at” in life? Approaching retirement? Looking to start a family? Childfree, keeping it thst way and cruising your thirties? Just finished university? A lot depends on where you are!
Thank you for this. I guess I can check the employment forum again to see if anyone has had any luck with not getting blown off. I really have tried every approach from nice to firm to begging to sob stories to name/email address changes and nothing works. Glad it isn't just me as misery loves company...but not in this case really, lol.
The dream for me is to live in Glasgow again agnostic to surroundings or neighborhood. I always felt Scottish although I am anything but. My wife is the opposite. She had a rough life there and wants to live as isolated as possible in the UK or here. To me, isolation is much harder to obtain there than it is to get here. I am fine either way really.
Complete opposites, but you know what they say about that. To me, the objective of obtaining isolation is an extremely difficult thing to accomplish there logistically. I know that I am speaking metaphorically perhaps but I think it will be 5 times as hard, 5 times as costly, and 5 times as difficult as here.
I am in my mid/late forties and my wife is just about to start pushing 40. We have teenagers. One is early teens and one is late teens. Late teens one loves it here. Early teens one wants to move to England...interesting.
Where we are: Living great for TODAY.
Don't get me wrong. I won't be able to retire, possibly ever. The reason we left the USA for the UK in the early 2000's was because where we lived in the USA at the time. it was impossible to find work. I had a young one from a previous marriage and we had it really tough on both ends. I also had an ex-wife who could out-afford me in her litigation to stop me from seeing my child. At the other end, I could not afford to pay her child support and live along with all of the consequences that came with it.
After being effectively stopped from seeing my child, along with a downward spiraling financial situation we decided that it was time to move to the UK so that I could find work...and so I did. Life got better, and I was able to make international payments, but I really was stopped by her unwillingness to see my child. She refused international visitation on any terms and she held all of the cards. I started to feel bad, so we returned to the USA thinking that things would get better. They did, but just for a short time. Ultimately, the ex was able to out litigate me again and I lost all contact with my child who is now well into adulthood. While all of this was happening, her father in Scotland passed away just 2 years after losing her mother.
The child support paid out and student loans (Just an A.S. degree which is completely ignored in the UK but was incredibly expensive for me to pay off after 20 years of compound interest having been deferred to pay child support) thereafter have it so that we cannot live a good life now and in the future. I guess that I am fortunate in a way as most people would not have been able to survive this. Just trying to live well today while it's possible. I feel like we deserve it. I will probably work remotely into retirement. Thanks for that Covid.
My "business" is just a one person federal contractor setup. It's just how I choose to do business as opposed to being a salaried person.
The odds of being to articulate such a move and keep such a job are quite slim even though it is 100% remote largely due to the nature of the beast....although the US has an international presence out there with a relevant nexus I wouldn't bank on the ability to make a move through such channels. Now my boss has a pretty liberal interpretation about these things and if there is anyone that would say yes based upon reason she would be the one. Still, that would probably create immigration hang-ups even if authority is received that I can't even imagine.
I failed to think of the impact of the lockdowns on folks living there as well. Thanks for the lowdown.
Typing this out really helps me think.
Appreciated.