Hi all,
I moved to the UK in 2018. I did try to take refresher lessons to get my UK licence, but I was extremely panicky, very uncomfortable and eventually decided I needed to take a break because it was just adding to the stress I already had from moving. I was able to walk to my job at the time so I didn't really need a license or anything, so I just thought I'd deal with it later.
Fast forward to Fall 2019, I got a new job and thought about taking another few refresher lessons and getting my provisional. This was around late November 2019. I started the process to apply with my provisional and within the time I waited to get the form, Christmas came and went, so I officially looked at the paperwork in January 2020. I realized I'd need to send off my BRP to get the provisional, and opted not to do it because we were travelling to the States in Feb 2020, and I was extremely nervous of it not returning on time or it getting lost in the mail and ruining our chances to go to the US. So, I had decided to try again when we got back in March. But in March 2020 Covid happened, everything went into lockdown and I was working from home. After a few months I did try to contact a few places for refresher lessons, but no one was offering it at the time because of social distancing rules, which is fair. I fell into a deep depression toward the end of the year, and to be honest, sort of forgot about the provisional and all thoughts of getting my UK license. I was working from home and not going anywhere. I take the bus to work, so when I did get back to work, driving was not even on my mind. Then, in 2021 my mental health started to get a lot better but by the time I decided to sit down and re-start the provisional process my visa was up for renewal and my BRP was going to expire so obviously I wasn't sending it in the mail. So, again, my plans to do this were halted. Now, I have a new BRP and will apply for a provisional as I'm not planning to go out of the country anytime soon (anymore) because covid and social distancing are very much still a thing.
However, I do think driving lessons are back on (I just need to check). Anyway, the point of all this back story is my US license expires on 6 September 2021. I went home in February and drove around like normal and it was convenient, but now that I live in the UK I can't go to the DMV in person to renew. I still have mail that goes to my mom's house (the address registered with the DMV), I am registered to vote in LA and have a bank account in LA. I was hoping to just renew online but I never got a "renewal notice" so I can't renew online, and obviously can't go in person. But all in all, I'm wondering if what I was planning to do is "going around the rules" since I don't technically live in LA anymore. I didn't really think of this until I tried renewing. I honestly did not think it would be a problem to just renew my LA license online. Clearly, I was wrong! (I had never applied online before) I was kind of hoping to just renew online, get my new license sent to my moms house, then she would mail it to me. Blam bam, good to go and I can drive when I visit home.
I just want some advice and/or if any of you have dealt with this before. If my US license expires and I can't renew it from here, and I don't have my UK license, I am afraid I won't really be able to visit home for a while because I'm from a city that is built in such a way that if you don't have a car/license, you can't get around. Everyone just says to go and get it but when I say I PANICKED I am not just making excuses or exaggerating so I kindly ask for people not to reply with "you'll just have to get your uk license" or "you might have to get over it and get your uk license" I am well aware of this. If getting my UK license is my only option then I'll deal with that, but I don't need to hear it a bunch of times. Apologies if I seem snarky with this, but I've been told to "get over it" so many times it's kind of triggering now.
It's been extremely difficult for me to "face my fears" in regard to driving here. I had a full blown panic attack behind the wheel and it's kind of frightened me from trying. Now it's been near three years since I've driven (except the two weeks I drove in the US in Feb 2020. I LOVED driving in the US. I'm not afraid to drive, I'm just afraid to drive HERE.) I'm working on it, but I'm very afraid to drive here if I'm panicking. I am only wondering if anyone has dealt with this kind of issue before. If renewing my US license is NOT an option, then I'll just accept that but right now I'm just confused about what my options are. I am in a position to apply for my provisional for now at least.