Kitty101, Hi! -- for me, it's just taken a lot of time. The English instinct tends to be to stand back and watch for a while (just to see if you sink or swim!

), but secondly there is a huge generosity, warmth and depth there waiting.
It's been a great Halloween - we had over 30 trick-or-treaters

. There was a real family atmosphere about it this year -- mom, dad (one dressed as the Grim Reaper!) and even granddad in an electric scooter came along.
I've just pigged out on all the remaining candy and feel as sick as a parrot...

Happy Halloween to you all!

(Love these pumpkin smilies.)