He insists on paying for my trip but it's hard waiting....

Have you ever met?...

If not...maybe he's scared? I dunno...

You should talk to him about it though...seems like an issue that needs resolving.

Good luck

p.s
you're gorgeous!

Awwww, thanks Reeeeka    And I'm so envious that you will be seeing your honey soon, I hope you have a great time together.
No, we haven't met yet and I know a lot of you didn't meet for a long time so maybe I should be more patient, but still....
Everyone here has given such good advice and I'm definitely going to pay for the trip myself.  I will let you guys know how it goes, hopefully will visit him in August.  It's so nice having such nice people here for advice, especially ones who can relate more than friends and family.  Thanks to everyone that took the time to reply.

Awwww, thanks Reeeeka    And I'm so envious that you will be seeing your honey soon, I hope you have a great time together.
No, we haven't met yet and I know a lot of you didn't meet for a long time so maybe I should be more patient, but still....
Everyone here has given such good advice and I'm definitely going to pay for the trip myself.  I will let you guys know how it goes, hopefully will visit him in August.  It's so nice having such nice people here for advice, especially ones who can relate more than friends and family.  Thanks to everyone that took the time to reply.

You're welcome!  0o yes I'm so freaking excited and nervous! hehe thanks we will. 

I started online dating adam in november 2001 and met him in Jan 2003. So it was over a good year...so yeah some of us wait a while before meeting and others meet weeks/months after...it all depends.

Let us know how things turn out...i hope you get to meet him soon! I'm sure you'll love it (england) and him!

It's nice to come here and know people understand. My family and friends don't understand...it's funny cus when my mom sees im upset after adam and i have argued she goes "what could you POSSIBLY have to argue about...you arn't together!!!" and I'm like "well same things you and your husband argue over...just cus we arn't together doesn't mean we don't fight". They don't get it...and it's nice to know other people do. 

Awwww, thanks Reeeeka    And I'm so envious that you will be seeing your honey soon, I hope you have a great time together.
No, we haven't met yet and I know a lot of you didn't meet for a long time so maybe I should be more patient, but still....
Everyone here has given such good advice and I'm definitely going to pay for the trip myself.  I will let you guys know how it goes, hopefully will visit him in August.  It's so nice having such nice people here for advice, especially ones who can relate more than friends and family.  Thanks to everyone that took the time to reply.

I met Rory online in the summer of 2002, friends of mine were getting married in Scotland that following spring and he had agreed to be my date, but i didn't have enough money for the plane ticket. I ended up buying my own ticket (to see said friends, as well as 2 others that had moved over there by that time) to see everyone in Dec 2003, and sorted it out with Rory that I'd stay with him during that time.  so mey in summer of 2002, i paid for my ticket in dec of 2003/jan 2004 - we fell in love (marriage was mentioned by him the 3rd day in). 

he missed me and i wanted to see hi magain, so him and his mum (bless her) flew me over in april of 2004 for easter, at which point i had been accepted to his uni so i toured that (i was originally going to madrid, met him - went to madrid, hated it, came back early, decided to apply to his uni at his suggestion - got in). 

i paid for my ticket over in july of 2004, as well as myine back for my vacation in december of 2004 and my return one in july of 2005. i chipped in some for his ticket in july of 2005 i think, and we paid our own way for our tickets around the US when he was here in july/august. 

he paid for 1/3 of my ticket in december 2005, we got engaged jan 2 2006, and he paid for half my ticket in march 2006.

i've been going over there so much as its much cheaper for both of us, plus thats just the way its worked out.

hes coming here in june for my last week in town, i'm giving him (hopefully) some money for his ticket (if he lets me) - and we're getting married and returning, i'm paying for my tickets.

that sounds really long, but more or less most of the times i've been over, he's paid a portion - once he paid it all (but i paid his mum back, so he really only paid half and i paid half)

congrats Katie.mo!  And thanks Jules!  Yes, it has been a bit of a fairytale for us!

Wow Jules and NYNY great stories!! As you know I was just in London to see Phantom and didnt make it but saw the rest of what you mentioned

I met df about 6 years ago online and we were just aquaintences, then over the course of late spring/early summer of 05 started talking more, realized we wanted to meet, and 2 months after knowing we wanted more than a friendship we met (after I missed my first flight due to changing it and the airline not telling us they refused to charge dfs credit card  ) in Atlanta, where we were to see an Oasis concert...we never quite made it We spent a month together, went our separate ways for 2 weeks and then I came here for one month. I was only allowed that one month, went back to the US, applied for and was refused a visit visa, and then denied entry granted one weeks leave to enter. We got engaged on my last day here, and then I went home to get ready to get my fiancee visa. I found out on df's birthday I was pg, brought home more than just a ring from that visit I got my visa and have been here a week. His original plan was to propose during POTO but I certainly wouldnt change how it happened Something to tell tigger when he/she is bigger Nope, not ashamed Im not married to him hehe

Anyway my whole point of that was, I never paid for anything, df paid for it all because I couldnt. I felt bad, but we really wanted to meet...and by the time I was to go to atlanta he was willing to do whatever it took (the airline was saying $1k to get the later flight when THEY screwed up!!! they later charged just what they were originally). He wasnt desperate, just in love, although he was determined he wouldnt know until we met He paid for the subsequent visit to England, the refused visa, the 2nd trip here, then my fiancee visa and my latest ticket here as well.

I can see why he would want to pay, being a knight in shining armor and all that sort of thing, but if you are in a better position to afford the flight Id do it...the only reason I let df pay was because it was the only way we could be together. I would have liked to have paid at least half but it just never was possible. But Im here now, so in the future we will be working toward flights for myself and children together.

Best of luck to you!!! A year and a half is a long time, Im not at all patient though

Thanks for your advice, Aeonix.  I'm glad it all worked out for you and now you're happily with your honey.  Good thing I'm patient but that will only last for so long....

I hate to be the one to say this, but.....some people online are on looking for a fantasy relationship and really don't want it to become "real" life.  I've known people like this and I can assure you that they are out there.  Its easier to have an online relationship than one that requires real-life interaction.
I'm not hating on meeting a significant other online..in fact, my husband and I met online and we spoke for four years on the phone and online before we met.
The BIG difference is...we were just friends and on for a laugh.  We knew we weren't bf/gf and although we thought we could have feelings for each other, we knew at that time it wasn't possible.  When we decided we knew we wanted to meet and we were in love (yes, before we met), we booked tickets soon after.  I paid for his ticket and neither he nor I had a problem with it.  I had money and he didn't.  Not a big deal when you want to see the person you have been waiting for your whole life.  I've racked up $6,000 in debt paying for our tickets.  Now that he has a job, he gives me money, so by the time I leave I'll almost have zero left.  When you want to see your bf/gf you'll do anything to do it.
I really hope this is the relationship you are looking for, but my main concern is that you call him your bf and you want to do everything you can to see him, but he's wanting to wait until he can pay for it, which seems to me that he's either stalling or is a bit too macho (which is something else to think about).  I really wonder about that and I hope you think about it as well.  I'd hate to see you get hurt.  My advice would be...if you can afford it, tell him that you want to come visit and you are going to book a ticket.  Let him know that this is important to you and is something you need to do and that you are happy to pay.  You'll know by his reaction and what he says after if he is really looking to take your relationship into the "real" world.

Good luck.  I wish you the best  

Pay yourself if you can get there soon. I'm sure he doesn't have to impress you! Go be with your man!

Uber_Yank, thanks for your input.  I am definitely taking all of that into consideration, don't want to go into this stupidly or blindly.  I referred to him as my bf more as an abbreviation for guy friend, it's still hard for me to think of it as a "real" relationship when we haven't met yet.  I've thought about the whole fantasy relationship and have even talked to him about that, he says it's not that, just that he feels it's the gentlemanly thing to do, being able to pay for me and show me a good time.  But who knows, you don't really know someone until you actually "know them".  You've given some really good advice and it helps getting it from someone who has been there.  Thanks.

You are very welcome.  Anytime you need to talk or want advice, feel free to ask