"So... how's married life?"

I get that question a lot.  I was the first of my college friends to get married.  It all happened so fast that it was like 'giggling with my girlies as we snuck away from the scene of a party at 7:00 am and random hookups' one week to  'holy crap, I'm registered for wedding presents' the next.

I think, at least with my friends, the questions they were really asking were:

1.  Are you suddenly different?
2.  Are we still BFFs?
3.  Are you really happy? If not, I'll bust his kneecaps.
4.  What made this one different?
5.  I want to know what it feels like to be married, tell me all about it.

My answer is, honestly, I don't feel any different.  That's how I knew he was the one!  We were married from the second we laid eyes on each other.  If it's someone I'm not as close to, I tend to say "It's brilliant, I get to be with my best friend every single day!"

for the record, I've been married for 3 1/2 ish years.  and I still get asked that!  (the baby questions have started creeping into conversations now, too) 

LOL.... I'd totally forgotten about this thread.  I have to say though, that with the sudden baby boom at dh's work, they have now started asking him about when we are going to have children.  I'm so not ready for that question yet!   

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for the record, I've been married for 3 1/2 ish years.  and I still get asked that!  (the baby questions have started creeping into conversations now, too) 
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I've been barely married over a year and I've been getting the baby questions (mostly from my grandmother) since the day I got married!!!

I find that the people who ask me how married life is, are the people who don't have such a good married life themselves.  Not saying there is a connection, but...

DH and I were married nearly two months ago.  We had already lived together for over a year and a half before we got married, so from that point of view nothing changed.  Quite frankly I'm glad we went through the "storming" stages of living together before we got married because that's all behind us now.

The day after we got married, I felt a deeper love for him than I had ever experienced.  I still go through waves of feeling more love for him than I ever thought I could.

I used to think marriage was just a piece of paper but when he and I met, I realised I really wanted to be married to him and am happy to say the reality is even better than I had hoped for or expected.

We even fight less than we do now - I think the fact we have made this commitment means we work harder to get along and make life as pleasant for each other as possible.

DH believes that love is a verb and he really showed his true colours in that regard recently.  I broke out in hives two weeks ago due to an extreme allergic reaction after returning to London having spent the previous three weeks in a dry/desert part of India.  I knew I was allergic to mould and mildew and suspected our bathroom was the cause, as the walls, ceiling, even the inside of the medicine cabinet were teeming with it (it multiplied like crazy while we were away for the three weeks).  While I was laying in bed writhing in misery from the hives, DH spent 4 hours cleaning the bathroom and he scrubbed every square inch of it, even the ceiling.  It did the trick for getting rid of the allergens and I recovered within a day.  Now that is what I call showing love for another person.