i hate it...

the fact that im in love with a girl that lives soo far away,and our wedding isnt until may, i just want to be there, and be happy, its soo hard with distance, and phone cards.it all sucks and makes me sad...

Hang in there.  I know it's easier said than done, but from someone who's been there, once May comes around, all the wait will be worth it.

Do you have Skype?  That can help with costs of calling.  Mr. C. and I ended up getting Vonage because our systems probably couldn't handle Skype.  It's free to call Vonage to Vonage anywhere in the world, and US Vonage can call UK landlines free.  But be sure to find out what the cancellation terms are.  Before Vonage, he had some sort of VOIP or something where he could call me for a few pence a minute, and I had a regular landline plan where I paid like $10 extra a month for an international plan with $.03 a minute.  Skype is definitely the best value.

Mr. C. and I are now able to do things like watch films "together" on the phone.  We always try to make sure we have time online to play games or pursue common interests, even if just virtually.  It makes us feel more like a "normal" couple.

There's nothing that will take away all the pain of being from a totally different country than the person you love, but you can make it a bit better.  Try not to get too down.  I hope you feel better soon.  If worst comes to worse, immerse yourself in planning for her trip and your wedding.  Just distracting yourself or feeling like you're working towards a goal that seems out of your reach sometimes helps.

/totally unsolicited advice

Hope you feel happier soon.

Ha! Love the screen name; afraid to ask the significance.

Yes, Skype made a HUGE difference for us. Because it's free, we can just leave it running in the evening. Pipe it through your speakers, and you can hear each other move around and make cups of tea. Add a camera, and you've got the visual, too.

It's not as good as being together, of course, but it's a heck of a lot better than it used to be...when all we had was email and the occasional (expensive!) phone call. Still, I suppose we're lucky not to have lived in the days of snail mail across the Atlantic.

I am sorry you are feeling so sad!  Hugs!  It does hurt and it does make you sad.  I am living it right now.  The only difference is we are already married but having panic attacks over a weak visa application.  But, with that said, we know it is only a matter of time until we are together and living a normal happy life.  It takes time, it hurts, and it is hard.  But there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel.

Stay busy, keep up the communication, and lean on those in your life that love you.  It makes all the difference in the world!

Hang in there.  I know it's easier said than done, but from someone who's been there, once May comes around, all the wait will be worth it.

Do you have Skype?  That can help with costs of calling.  Mr. C. and I ended up getting Vonage because our systems probably couldn't handle Skype.  It's free to call Vonage to Vonage anywhere in the world, and US Vonage can call UK landlines free.  But be sure to find out what the cancellation terms are.  Before Vonage, he had some sort of VOIP or something where he could call me for a few pence a minute, and I had a regular landline plan where I paid like $10 extra a month for an international plan with $.03 a minute.  Skype is definitely the best value.

Mr. C. and I are now able to do things like watch films "together" on the phone.  We always try to make sure we have time online to play games or pursue common interests, even if just virtually.  It makes us feel more like a "normal" couple.

There's nothing that will take away all the pain of being from a totally different country than the person you love, but you can make it a bit better.  Try not to get too down.  I hope you feel better soon.  If worst comes to worse, immerse yourself in planning for her trip and your wedding.  Just distracting yourself or feeling like you're working towards a goal that seems out of your reach sometimes helps.

/totally unsolicited advice

Hope you feel happier soon.

yah we have skype sometimes.. its only when shes at her parents house, but shes usually in london for college. thanksthough!

Ha! Love the screen name; afraid to ask the significance.

Yes, Skype made a HUGE difference for us. Because it's free, we can just leave it running in the evening. Pipe it through your speakers, and you can hear each other move around and make cups of tea. Add a camera, and you've got the visual, too.

It's not as good as being together, of course, but it's a heck of a lot better than it used to be...when all we had was email and the occasional (expensive!) phone call. Still, I suppose we're lucky not to have lived in the days of snail mail across the Atlantic.

yes way better than the snail mail accross the atlantic

oh and dahmerisdead--- took it from a violent femmes song.. love them.

I am sorry you are feeling so sad!  Hugs!  It does hurt and it does make you sad.  I am living it right now.  The only difference is we are already married but having panic attacks over a weak visa application.  But, with that said, we know it is only a matter of time until we are together and living a normal happy life.  It takes time, it hurts, and it is hard.  But there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel.

Stay busy, keep up the communication, and lean on those in your life that love you.  It makes all the difference in the world!

thanks, i hope your visa application goes good!