They initmidate the hell out of me, I must admit. And this past time was especially difficult. I wasn't told to stand aside for more questioning but the amount of questions was a lot lengthier and more intense than before.
I had that at Heathrow this time last year. The EO I had was very rude, told me she'd let me in this time, but next time there would be "a hell of a lot more questions and there is nothing stopping us from getting married and applying for a fiance visa." My passport was flagged at that point. I never had problems going in prior to that, even when I visited for 4 months on my prior trip.
On my next visit, I took bank statements and stuff to prove I had enough funds for my trip, didn't have an employment letter, actually never thought of having one. On hindsight, I should have. It would have been my proof of returning to the US - at least helped with that part anyways.
This isn't something I've thought about much at all. I spent a month in the UK recently and I'm beginning to think that this was only possible because it was meant to be a two week stay. When I went through customs I told them it was two weeks and if they had looked it up, they'd have seen that my return flight was for that period. I ended up skipping the flight and staying (almost) two more weeks. On the way out, of course, I did tell them I'd been in the UK for four weeks but even the questioning back in the US was more intense!
I could be wrong, but I'm sure they get that often. On my last trip to the UK I had a 5 week return ticket, but because I had brought an extra luggage (what they thought was too much - I had only brought some photos and music cds), they didn't believe I was going to be returning to the US at the end of 5 weeks. I was denied entry, but I was granted a 5 week temporary stay, my return ticket, they just kept my passport until I returned to the airport to leave.
As far as US immigration - I had that happen to me once when I returned from the UK after 4 months, but no one said a word to me after a 6 month return. I think they are just checking to see if you had been working etc. I didn't sweat it, my logic was, what was the US going to do? Deport me back to my own country, the US - I'm already there to get back in? lol.
So, what's a person to do? Would it be a really bad idea to try and go to the UK for a month or more? The purpose of the visit would obviously be to spend time with Richard (he has a steady job there, I don't have a job here so it makes sense for us to get some together time this way) but is that not enough?
Also, I'm feeling a knot in my stomach for the amount of times I've traveled with very little money on me. When I visit Richard, we stay at his parents' place or a hotel (or a combination) and of course, he funds the whole thing so I only need enough cash for the journey. If they question me further and find out that I don't have enough money on me to take care of myself for the entire stay will that look too suspicious? I could remedy this by him sending me money ahead of time but... then there's that little factor of me not having a job to return to.
I would go prepared if possible. Whatever funds you do have in an account, take a print of, so they can see that you do have some funds. I'd also take a letter from your sponsor, Richard, stating he will be supporting you during your visit including how long you'll be there - from what day to when, and where you'll be staying - with him or hotel, if hotel, who's paying for it etc. if with his parents, a letter from the parents stating you're staying with them while you visit. May not be a bad idea to include a pay slip from him as well, to show proof he can support you? Don't know if that's needed but just a suggestion. My fiance (boyfriend then) was at the airport to pick me up and the EO asked him questions as well, he basically verified everything I had said.
Do you have any other ties to the US to prove you do need to return? Mortgage? Rental/Lease agreement? Any kind of ties back to the US will probably greatly help. Wish you lost of luck!