I don't think so. I'll be applying for ILR in a few months (if all goes as planned) because I get to skip the spousal visa. I certainly don't mind taking a little test-what's the big deal? I think that I *should* know something about the country I'm going to live in, and I think it's right that the IND might want me to know something about their country before I plop myself and my family down in it. I agree that the expense is a little upsetting, but the process certainly isn't-and correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't think anyone here has had that hard a time getting to be with their spouses-we certainly haven't had anyone denied a spousal visa, have we? Although I know that does sometimes happen to asylum seekers...
Personally, I think it's the people who are creating false marriages in an attempt to defraud the IND, and not the poor asylum seekers, who create immigration problems for the rest of us. But then, I don't buy into the subtle racism that says asylum seekers are automatically criminals and so should be required to take even more extra steps that the rest of us don't either, so perhaps that's just me.