Black to weddings??

Dales sister said her boyfriend will be wearing a black suit and shes going to be wearing a black dress to our wedding on Friday. I mentioned how black represents mourning and how it will look like they are on their way to a funeral. Her boyfriend butts in and tells me how wrong I am, and maybe thats how they do things in America but in the UK its perfectly acceptable for people to wear all black to a wedding. Is this true?

Even if it's acceptable, I still think it's a bit tacky.  Unless it's a black tie evening-type affair, then it wouldn't be so bad.  But, that's just my opinion.

It is perfectly acceptable to wear black to weddings here in the US and many people do it. I don't think that black really carries a "mourning" stigma with it anymore. IMHO, everyone should just wear whatever color they feel good in.

Congrats on your wedding!! Hope that you have a blast!

No.  Nononononono.  It is not acceptable to wear black to a wedding, and even if it was, it's not acceptable to wear black to a wedding when it bothers the bride.

(Men, though, are excepted.  It is and has always been acceptable for men to wear black anywhere.)

It is accepted but personally I would try and avoid it.   There are a few churches near us and so I see a lot of wedding groups walking about and quite a lot of the women do wear black. 

Yep - it's "acceptable" but I would have been terribly insulted if any of my female guests had worn black to my wedding.  I find it highly inappropriate.

I think it depends on the garmet -- if it's a "little black dress" with nice jewellery and heels, I see absolutely no problem with that.  If they're wearing a head-to-toe shroud of black, it'd be a little weird.

Just one of the reasons I feel it's wrong is this:

No woman wears that "little black dress" unless she wants to look smashing.  Well - a wedding is the BRIDE'S day and one shouldn't be thinking about the impression they're making because the day doesn't belong to them in any way.  So, really, I find wearing black to a wedding kind of selfish, in a way. 

it's hard to generalize for weddings.  i have word black to a wedding- but it was a black tie affair- and i wore a yellow/orange velvet shawl thingy to spice it up a bit.  i would think it odd to see someone in a classic 'mourning' suit- you know black crepe wool suit with black hat.  so clearly funeral. 

as for the 'bride's day' comment- i understand that it's the couples day- and the the focus of all involved should be on the union of these two people.  but does that mean to imply that all other female guests should dress themselves down- so as not to appear attractive?  i think there's probably a gradiation/sliding scale here. 

i never really understood 'dressing down' at weddings, until i was a bride.  i would always want to look my best for every wedding and would freak if my dress or tan wasn't right, etc.  then i became a bride and realized it was all about me on that day-not my guests.

on my wedding day i didn't give a rat's toosh about what others were wearing......people wore black to my wedding and i didn't care, hey my cousins didn't even wear ties or jackets.  (it wasn't blacktie but was formal)

anyway i see no issues with black, i've worn it to a lot of night time weddings, not always black tie.  I do usually have a nice coloured wrap or accessory to go with it.

i did wear a black and white dress here in the UK and i didn't stick out, but i would have been better off in my pink dress......but i will admit it made me feel skinnier than the pink dress and i wanted my husband to be proud of me on that day....i guess i was being vain, but it wasn't about outshining the bride.  it was about looking good for my husband.

are you having a day or night wedding?? if it's evening than it's perfectly fine if it's day then she needs to team it up with some colour as it looks like she's heading to a funeral...this is advice from my MIL who is a Vicar and says even *she* as a vicar isn't all in black to perform the wedding ceremony...

in lieu of late night chat times..

I think you know what you want and if SIL  won't behave.. my money is on you girl!!   

you are the bride..it's all about you!! get in there!!

Tell her how it would really upset you. She should respect your wishes. It's your wedding.

And tell her boyfriend to butt out. What does he know? Unless he's gay, men shouldn't know about these things. 

Maybe I'm just weird about stuff like this, but does it really matter what people are wearing to your wedding?  At the end of the day, you'll be married and that's all that matters -- not that Aunt Tilly wore a purple muu-muu with orange zebra stripes!

Won't your SIL feel like a loser if other members of the family do indeed consider it a faux pas to wear black to the wedding and everyone is snickering at her.  It's on her.  Not on you.  Ignore her and enjoy your day!