Latest grief from the Beast

I'd just tell him 'Fuggedaboudit!' -- keep your babies with you this Xmas & tell him he can have 'em for Xmas when he learns to act like a decent human being.

I'd just tell him 'Fuggedaboudit!' -- keep your babies with you this Xmas & tell him he can have 'em for Xmas when he learns to act like a decent human being.

Yeah, I know what youre saying but the kids dont realize he is an a$$hole (yet) and the deserve not to be disappointed as they are really looking forward to going. I try not to let my differences between me and the beast interfere with the kids rights to see their father.   

Yeah, I know what youre saying but the kids dont realize he is an a$$hole (yet) and the deserve not to be disappointed as they are really looking forward to going. I try not to let my differences between me and the beast interfere with the kids rights to see their father.   

OMG, I can't even believe what I have read here Ricki, how about you concede to his demands (just this one time and for the sake of the kids, it's wonderful you are able to set aside your anger and make sure they see his dad, they'll make up their own minds soon enough when old enough) BUT use it as leverage to say that you will only agree to all of this, this time so long as the next time, he foots the bill (down to food expenses where necessary).

I have never heard of such scum-ism (I am so annoyed for you I had to make a silly new word up!) Has he no pride whatsoever - well, clearly not, I am just talking out loud here.

I admire you, not easy to take the high road in instances like this
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OMG, I can't even believe what I have read here Ricki, how about you concede to his demands (just this one time and for the sake of the kids, it's wonderful you are able to set aside your anger and make sure they see his dad, they'll make up their own minds soon enough when old enough) BUT use it as leverage to say that you will only agree to all of this, this time so long as the next time, he foots the bill (down to food expenses where necessary).

I have never heard of such scum-ism (I am so annoyed for you I had to make a silly new word up!) Has he no pride whatsoever - well, clearly not, I am just talking out loud here.

I admire you, not easy to take the high road in instances like this
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I told him since he got the kids hopes up I will cooperate with him THIS time only! Brett, my 7 year old is constantly talking about going on the airplane and seeing Aunt Becky (his sister). The kids never mention their father by the way.

See this goes way back but when we first divorced I agreed to bring the kids back to the USA to see him twice a year but thats when I worked for the airlines and had flight benefits. Now I dont and he is still trying to get me to pay for the tix which I cant. He had me served with contempt of court papers last year which I still have to face probably in Jan. He keeps threatening to have me served with contempt of court again if I dont start paying for the kids tix. In the meantime for the past year I have had my lawyer working on all this in form of a modification. We are scheduled for court on 23-24 of Jan.

Stunned Ricki, I just don't know how people cope with that sh*t. Loser for letting you go, but no words to describe how he would be happy to miss out on spending some time with his beautiful children

He had me served with contempt of court papers last year which I still have to face probably in Jan. He keeps threatening to have me served with contempt of court again if I dont start paying for the kids tix. In the meantime for the past year I have had my lawyer working on all this in form of a modification. We are scheduled for court on 23-24 of Jan.

What a horrible pain in the butt!!!  Do you have to travel to the States for this?  I would guess you would.  I wonder - if you try to go there and he has any type of legal action against you, will it impact you entering and/or leaving the US??  Scary!!!!

I hope you get it all sorted - that's no way to live.

~Liza

What a horrible pain in the butt!!!  Do you have to travel to the States for this?  I would guess you would.  I wonder - if you try to go there and he has any type of legal action against you, will it impact you entering and/or leaving the US??  Scary!!!!

I hope you get it all sorted - that's no way to live.

~Liza

Thanks!
Yes I have to go to court but the contempt action is being combined with the modification so it will all be dealt with at once. Basically I have nothing to worry about with the contempt of court as HE wouldnt allow the boys to have their passports renewed so how could I bring them back to the USA? Such an idiot! Im positive if his lawyer knew he wasnt signing for the boys passports he wouldnt have ever agreed to have me charged with contempt as it makes no sense. I was being held in contempt of court for not bringing the boys back for his visitation however how could I if he wouldnt allow them to have passports. Im telling you this whole thing is so ridiculous. This grief from him has been going on since I moved here five years ago. He needs to get on with his life but he just doesnt. He has nothing to do except make my life miserable. Ugh!

He has nothing to do except make my life miserable. Ugh!

There are very sad people in this world who have nothing in their lives except making people miserable.  My ex's ex was like that.  Sooooo glad I got away from THAT mess!!!  I can't imagine I was considering being stuck in that for the rest of my life!! UGH!!!

~Liza

There are very sad people in this world who have nothing in their lives except making people miserable.  My ex's ex was like that.  Sooooo glad I got away from THAT mess!!!  I can't imagine I was considering being stuck in that for the rest of my life!! UGH!!!

~Liza

Yes I understand completely where youre coming from. Funny thing is for me anyway I was married to this beast for ten years and he was always a jerk but honestly I didnt realize it at all until after the divorce. True what they say about love being blind.    The best gift this thing ever gave me was the divorce!

I am so sorry that you have to be going thru grief such as this! it sounds like you are keeping your sense of humor and maturity by doing what is best for your kids.  It sounds like your kids are lucky to have you as a mother

Can you have him fly over and get them and then you fly to the states and bring them back...just so there are no troubles bringing them back?

We have very roomy septic tank that would fit a turd like him if you are still looking for a place to put him

wishing you the best!

We have very roomy septic tank that would fit a turd like him if you are still looking for a place to put him

WONDERFUL 

I am so sorry that you have to be going thru grief such as this! it sounds like you are keeping your sense of humor and maturity by doing what is best for your kids.  It sounds like your kids are lucky to have you as a mother

Can you have him fly over and get them and then you fly to the states and bring them back...just so there are no troubles bringing them back?

We have very roomy septic tank that would fit a turd like him if you are still looking for a place to put him

wishing you the best!

hee heee hee....you're great!! 

Wow Ricki can we ship my ex and yours both off to some remote island infested with idiot eating insects? 

I cannot believe the nerve of him asking you to pay for his expenses! Unbelievable! I don't think I could take the high road on that one! After all the nonsense he's put you and the boys through, I'd tell him to sleep in the airport! 

Yes, make him fend for himself, save for the flight.  If he bags the whole trip in over having to pay for his own room and chow, then he's an idiot (well, he's that regardless).

IF he were to bag the trip, you would have to buck up and tell the boys that Daddy just couldn't make it happen this time, and hope for the best for another time. 

At the end of it all, it is your call.  I know you want to do what's best for the boys, but just remember, a stressed out Mommy isn't much better than a dead-beat Daddy sometimes.  Good luck to you!!

The more you talk about what you have to go through, Ricki, the more this guy irritates the cr@p out of me.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through all of this.  Again.  and Again.  I wish I could do more than offer you virtual hugs. 


xxx