since I'm posting queries today...

I've seen a lot of tales of transAtlantic couples meeting over the Internet, and while I realize there are a lot of difficulties involved, I can't help but be a tiny bit jealous. I'm hardly so mercenary as to go out sweetheart-hunting so as to make the immigration process easier, but I *am* a lonely American bachelor who would love to find a British lass.

Internet dating sites are all very well, but they're mostly for folks looking to meet someone for a pint tomorrow night, not someone who may be arriving in six months' time. Any suggestions? Where have those of you in multicontinental (or formerly so) relationships run into each other?

From experience and stories I've heard, newsgroups, online interest groups, chatrooms, messengers, and the like. Perhaps if you have a hobby/interest, you could find an online group based in the UK or your destination area?

I met my husband on Livejournal. Since moving to the UK, I've added a lot of other users from the UK to my friends list. It's a great way to get to know someone without having to talk to them (that sounds weird, lol). You can get to know someone through reading their journal and them reading yours and maybe some comments here and there and you end up finding people that you are interested in getting to know better. I have made some good friends there, and best of all, found the love of my life!

Anyway, if you're into blogging maybe you could try getting an account there (or on a similar site) and adding some people in the area you're planning on moving to. Then you can get to know some people that you might like to meet when you get there.

I met my husband on Livejournal. Since moving to the UK, I've added a lot of other users from the UK to my friends list. It's a great way to get to know someone without having to talk to them (that sounds weird, lol).

Indeed, that's one thing I have done already! :-) I've met a number of interesting people through LJ (where I'm "winterbadger"), including folks in the UK that I hope are or will become good friends.

I met my hubby on udate in 2002. I don't know what dating sites are like now, but back then, there were lots of people just looking for someone to talk to. I made some good friends on there.

It's pretty easy, really, but I wouldn't say it's 100% foolproof, and the end result is NOT always romantic. You're taking a huge risk when you devote yourself and your time to an online stranger. All you have to do is just go on any UK chatroom and find a British girl to talk to. Don't assume it will always amount to something serious, because many people are just on there for a laugh and not necessarily looking for online romance, and then there's the chance she'll meet someone else in real life and run off with him instead and you'll never hear from her again -- so you can't take the whole thing too seriously. Bear in mind most people on the internet aren't really what they seem. Until you REALLY get to know them in person, you don't REALLY know them, no matter how much they tell you (I know this from watching other people have some very painful experiences after all the hours they wasted online talking to a complete waste of space). So it's normally not the most practical way to go about finding a real, lasting relationship. A lot of what we think our online friends are, are all just built up in our imagination, because we don't actually know them in person.

On the other hand, my fiance is absolutely perfect for me -- I just got really lucky, though. There are alot of people who you may find out even after meeting who aren't worth your time, just like in the real world. Don't rush into any life altering decisions just because your dream is to be with any British woman. There are plenty of them out there, so be careful. OK, I'm rambling, as usual.

By the way, what is it about British lassies in particular that appeals to you? 

I met my husband in a IRC chatroom........I wasn't "looking" for someone it just happened but I have to say there is NO way I would do it again now...we did this almost 9 yrs ago (OMG) I was sooooo lucky...there are to many freaks out there for me to do that again.....

Good luck

There are alot of different online meeting places out there.....just like honeybee said don't take anyone on what they tell you.....

I met my husband on a science forum. We initially starting up chatting about the moral implications of human cloning and genetics etc! (Is that romantic?!)

Good luck with your searching...you never know who may turn up!

I met hubby on yahoo and I wasn't looking either. He just pm'd me one night and said some cheesy line and we were friends for awhile after that and it devloped into something more.

I met my husband (Swedish) on ICQ, we were chatting about medieval morality causes.  Hot, huh?

lol how sweet!! at least the internet is good for something


I met  husband while sharing a flat with others in So. London...he kept nicking my milk for his tea

I called him a parasitic crusty hippie and he called me a materialistic corporate princess..and it went apesh*te from there

ROTFL, Alicia. . .
Charming. . . .

well damn it ...it would piss you off that after a long day from work there was no milk!!!

he wasn't the only one that nicked it but really he lived downstairs..if you're gonna make that long of a trip for milk then go to the frigging cornershop...come on!!

he doesn't drink all of the milk anymore ..it's now the soda

lol how sweet!! at least the internet is good for something


I met  husband while sharing a flat with others in So. London...he kept nicking my milk for his tea

I called him a parasitic crusty hippie and he called me a materialistic corporate princess..and it went apesh*te from there

lol thats so cute

my UK fiance and I met online, in a chatroom - actually, I was looking for someone else, wandered into a 'room', was the sole person there, and he wandered in also - got to chatting, went from there - met a few months later, and as they say, the rest is history - he bought me a lovely engagement ring, and hopefully (British Consulate cooperation, please!) will be married spring 2006