Feel a bit silly saying all this...

((((((((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))))))) it doesn't sound silly at all. My bf is from Leeds and I'm near Philadelphia right now, until I'm able to move there with him. We have visits every couple of months for about two weeks at a time, but its so hard that the majority of time we spend together is over a computer screen instead of being there in person. It feels like every time I have to come back to the States after a visit its harder and harder to leave

I hope he's able to transfer to uni in the U.K. without too much hassle. Anytime you have any questions or just need to talk about things, you can always come here, we all know what its like to go through this and how it helps to have support from people who understand.

((((((((((((((((( hugs )))))))))))))))))) it doesn't sound silly at all. My bf is from Leeds and I'm near Philadelphia right now, until I'm able to move there with him. We have visits every couple of months for about two weeks at a time, but its so hard that the majority of time we spend together is over a computer screen instead of being there in person. It feels like every time I have to come back to the States after a visit its harder and harder to leave

I hope he's able to transfer to uni in the U.K. without too much hassle. Anytime you have any questions or just need to talk about things, you can always come here, we all know what its like to go through this and how it helps to have support from people who understand.

thank you everyone
right now all the waiting to see what is going to happen is doing  my head in, I feel so unlike myself, unfocused and all over the place.
I got really stressed at work today which isn't like me either, but it all kinda got on top of me, thankfully my boss is a sweetheart (a crazy OCD sweetheart but a sweetheart nonetheless) and took me out for a frappucino and sympathy which got me out of the office and away from everything for a bit, and I had a bit of a weep, which embarassed my boss thoroughly heh heh which made me laugh a lot as he's a bit funny and thinks he's the dad of all of his team rather than our boss.
It's weird how things can hit you, right now he seems so incredibly far away.

I don't have any advice on the legal standpoint but I just wanted to say I hope everything works out for you both.

It can be very lonely and heartbreaking when you actually think about the many, many land and ocean miles that separate you. I've been in one for almost 6 years (Nov 9th). It's excruciating when you first leave...I can never sleep when we finally separate from one another.

Good luck and you can do it! If he's worth it like you say he is then just keep at it!

Ericka

Hello MaryKate

You are not silly at all and you are perfectly within your right to feel worried and stressed. I hope that everything works out for you both. Distance sucks big time. But it sounds like you are doing all the right things in terms of making plans. You just have to wait it out which sucks but have faith! Wonderful things can happen. Good luck, we are all here for you 

I agree, hopes and dreams are wonderful and worked for me.  Here I am, with him, in England, waiting to start the job of my dreams, where my friend already works.  I can relate, waiting is the hardest part, but if he is waiting with you, it is right.  Trust your instincts and do the countdown...that gives you something to do...countdown until he finds out...countdown until your next move...anything where you can watch the numbers shrink!

Thanks everyone, I really don't think I'd get through it without the support of people like you guys and my friends.
I'm really kinda blue today, The boy told his dad about wanting to move to england and all the plans and loans and everything that we've been going through...
His reaction "that's a whole lot of horse $hit" and then started drinking and wouldn't say anything about the subject again.
It just annoys me so much that his dad isn't being supportive, when his mum who is pretty protective over him, recognizes that this is a good thing for him and above all this is what he wants, and he's old enough to make his own decisions.
Gah.
His dad has never been there for him (long history of him basically being worse than deadbeat), and now he expects to be able to pass commentary on the boy's choices.
THAT is horse$hit to me.
rawr I know this is something that lots of you have been through, and it's just rubbish and sad making.