None of his family/friends are coming :'(

Our wedding is here in the States at the end of next month. His friends/family have known when it was going to be for a year or so...

No one from the UK is coming.

Not even DF's parents! I feel so awful, especially for him  :\\\'( I realize it's difficult to get to a wedding that is based in another country, but we thought at least his parents would show--they were going to (they are divorced) but now they have both changed their minds. It's heartbreaking. DF is going to talk to his mom this weekend in hopes of convincing her to come, but I'm not going to hold my breath

We have a decent sized guest list, and we have some friends in common stateside, but I'm just so disappointed that none of his family is going to make the trip, and none of our UK friends are going to show, either. I know some of them can't make it because of money issues, but I still have a right to be upset that no one is planning on showing up, don't I?  :\\\'(

sorry to hear.. only dh's immediate family came.. and one brother  had to practically be threatened..  one  close friend  came and nothing from the rest.. i don't buy it  personally, esecially if you gave them loads  of notice..    what was worse  for  me was that they  didn't help  to pay for the wedding  and his friends and most his family  didn't give us gifts.. nothing.. 

aww, I'm sorry to hear this.  Our wedding is gong to be in the States too, and I think it will only be FH's parents, sister and possibly 1 aunt and uncle coming from the UK.

I can totally understand that most of your DF's family can't afford it (same situation with us), but his parents aren't coming?? That's just...not on, especially when they've known about it for a year and even said they would come initially!  That sucks, I'm really sorry.

You have a right to be disappointed, and who knows, maybe after your DF talks to his parents some more they may change their mind.  If it makes you feel any better, we are getting married next year in Greece, and my DF's parents are refusing to come due to heat and only one set of his friends are coming.  It would be nice for you if your new extended family could be there, but maybe you do a reception or renewal of vows in the UK to bridge the gap?  I know, it is still stinky they won't come to your day, your special wedding, and you have the right to be upset.  They still could change their mind.  *hugs*  It will all work out for the best, it always does.

I'm sorry, I know how diappointing it can be. We were in the same situation except reversed. Planning a wedding in the UK for the sake of his single mum who couldn't afford to fly to the US. After positive feedback from my family I had anticipated a good turn out from my side but people slowly started dropping one after the other and we were soon left with no one. To avoid disappointment from both sides we decided to just scrap the wedding all together and we took off to Jamiaca and got married on the beach, just the two of us.

No one from my family (i'm the UK spouse) could make it either.  Sometimes it's just not practical to pay loads of money and fly over to another country for a one day event.  I understand why my family and friends couldn't make it but it made me a little weepy on the day.  We just had a quiet courthouse wedding though so it wasn't like their abscence was glaringly obvious.

I'm really, really sorry that none of his family will show.  That is heartbreaking. 

I only had 3 people from my side of the family show, my Dad was offered a free plane ticket and he still didn't come.  I was ok with it until the day of the wedding...when I came down the aisle and saw no one I really knew.....but saying that...we are now haveing a second ceremony in the States for those that couldn't make it.  Which I think makes up for them not being at the first wedding.

We got married just days after the US went into Iraq - only my parents came over to the UK for the wedding, because everyone was (rightly, wrongly) too frightened to fly at that time...

We're hoping to have a vow-renewal ceremony in the US for those who didn't come to the UK.  Eventually.

I'm sorry!  That just stinks.  We had something similar.  Rich's family came and his best mate, and two of our good friends.  But that was it.  I felt bad for Rich, but he actually seemed fine. I don't think he would have been if his family was not there though.

We had a reception in the UK a couple of months later and loads of people came to that, including my parents and sister which was nice.

Oh, what a shame!  His parents at least should make the effort.  We married in the UK and only my husbands dad flew over (his mum is dead) despite a number of promises from his brothers and friends.  I felt so bad for him in the run up to it, but on the day it didn't matter and looking back the people who are most disappointed and regretful are the ones that didn't come!

Hopefully his mother changes his mind, but your right to be upset.

You'll have a fantastic day regardless of who shows up - aside from you two of course 

Sorry to hear that -- though it's tough when it's a transatlantic wedding.  We married over here & mostly it was just DH's friends & family attending.  The only people who came over from the US were one of my brothers & his wife - which he's a pilot for a major commercial airline so he has very little, if any, expense in flying.  Plus, my best friend & his girlfriend (now wife) came over, but only because we paid for their flights -- they wouldn't have been able to afford to come otherwise.

In our instance, it all worked out for the best because it was DH's first marriage (my third) so I thought it was, in a way, more important for 'his people' to be there cos 'my people' had mostly already been to one of my weddings - lol!  You know - been there, done that & all.

kawaiimidori, maybe his parents will come after all - you never know!  But try not to let it ruin your special day.

Sorry to hear that.  Same thing happened with us.  The two sisters had good excuses - new babies.  But his parents chose to spend their money on their annual holiday to Ireland - they told us that as well.  While it would have been great to share the day with them, we decided in the end that it only really mattered of 2 people showed up - the 2 of us. 

Dh & I got married in the States because my family is way bigger than Dh's family. also none of my family & friends would have been able to afford to fly over if our wedding was in the UK. Dh didn't have anyone there for wedding his mum is afraid to fly, his brother & dad had to stay to run the family business none of his friends came either.  We videotaped our wedding for his family to see what a wonderful day we both had. Hopefully your DF can talk his parents into coming to your wedding.

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear. I got married in the UK and also had no one attend from my side of the family. This was at my request, to spare everyone the cost and burden of travel. We're going to have a ceremony or reception for my family during our next visit and for us that was the best option. We live in the middle of nowhere, and I couldn't stand the thought of my elderly, travel inexperienced relatives trying to make the journey.

If his parents don't change their minds, try not to let it ruin your day even though you're right to be disappointed.