My partner and I don't tend to have fights and I thought that we had amazing communication. However, I have just found out that he is having some massive wedding jitters that have manifested themselves in some poor, though forgivable in time, actions. I thought everything was fine and we communicated about everything, but somewhere along the way he got timid in expressing his worried and concerns about our relationship and now its all coming out in one big emotional, upsetting, tearfilled thing. :'(
This wouldn't be as hard if we were still going to be apart and just had to talk through it and improve our honesty with ourselves and each other, especially when it concerns the bedrock of our relationship.
Right now I am really completely panicing! I leave in 4 days to move over there and we will be married a month after that! We both still want me to go, but now Im just freaking out about our relationship and rushing into something we may not be ready for and to be honest, we decided on very quickly. Just a few hours ago I had NO DOUBTS, my coworkers threw me an amazing surpise bridal shower, and I couldn't wait to get the hell out of Dodge and get on with my life with my love - but now he is having serious jitters and concerns that I was unaware of until tonight because he didn't want to disrupt my apparent happiness when I was in lala land and wasn't aware of his worries.
Now all the feelings I have tried to avoid or rationalize myself out of - nervousness, fear, anxiety - regarding giving up my entire life in america have hit me 100 times more strongly than if we had been dealing with these issues over the last several months when we were planning this move and wedding.
He thinks the distance creates a problem with our communication, but I think thats rubbish because there is the potential for us to have been communicating all along, especially in those occasional 3-4 hour phone conversations that are very intimate.
I know this is rambly and a bit random, but I needed to write it because I don't feel like I have anyone to talk to and I am FREAKING out because all of my positive feelings about leaving have been replaced with nervousness and anxiety. Ive realized that we have some serious issues in our relationship that must be dealth with, and will be so much better to be dealt with in person than on the phone - especially since we are committed to making this work. But, alas, I don't know what to think or feel in the next four days. All I can tell is that Im going to have a hard time sleeping.
:'(