That was one of the most miserable original posts I've read on here. I don't think you're quite assimilated if you are obsessed with the rules back home and still living as if you're there and subject to all their rules. You live your life here. You are not in the US anymore. You do not have to renounce your US citizenship lol. And I'm sure you could sneak someone's ashes over a seaside cliff stateside without anyone knowing about it, if you were just a bit more subtle.