My sons' friend and his mother

I'm in a bit of a pickle here. Since we moved to this small close my sons have become very friendly with this 11 year old at the end of the close. He has a sister who is 9 and recently it has come to my attention both these kids openly swear at their parents, friends and neighbours. What drew this to my attention was a few nights ago the kids were all outside playing and this little 9 year old girl flipped my 12 year old son 'the bird'. The mother was coming outside at the time and the brother told her what happened. The mother yells at all the kids saying "you kids are always telling f*cking stories!" Jordan, my son tells her "No, she did do it" The mother replies "I don't give a sh*t and James (her son) you should always stick up for your family!" My sons were appalled to hear this woman speak to them this way. They came home and told me and I was stunned and didn't know whether or not to comfront her at that moment or cool off first. I don't want to stir things up on this little street yet I will not have anyone verbally abusing my kids. Especially an adult! So I told the kids they are not to go to that end of the street or play with that toilet mouth kid anymore. I feel I'm being a bit unfair but I don't know what else to do. I really don't feel I can comfront this woman without blowing my top.

i think you did the right thing by telling your wee ones to avoid these people.

it sounds like any confrontation with this woman would escalate into something more very quickly.

Agreed. Avoid them like the plague. It's not going to be worth the effort with her.

you did the right thing. I do the same with my kids.

I'm confident I made the right decision. I just know there's going to be a problem eventually. Our close is very small and she has the reputation for being the 'yente' or busy body of the street. 

I'm confident I made the right decision. I just know there's going to be a problem eventually. Our close is very small and she has the reputation for being the 'yente' or busy body of the street. 

You did the right thing.  The close proximity stinks though.  Avoid her if you can?

You did the right thing.  I wouldn't let my daughter around that set of toilet tongues either.

Get her an Asbo! 

No seriously, I think you have done the right thing for now. I wouldn't confront her unless you want to end up on Jerry Springer.  I'd just avoid her as much as possible but if she is the confrontational type and asks you why, then tell her.

The crazy thing, is that she probably doesn't think there is anything wrong with swearing at her kids and vice versa.  In our neck of the woods, it is commonplace. 

I don't think it would do you or the boys any good to confront her.  Just keep reinforcing that you don't approve of her language and if your boys ever talk to you that way, their lives will be over as they know it! 

No I've cooled off and decided a confrontation would be a disaster.
As for the ASBO Im sure her kids will have one before they're teenagers! 

 and if your boys ever talk to you that way, their lives will be over as they know it! 

as my dad would say, "your ass is grass and i'm the lawnmower", "that'd be your last act as a human being",  or my personal favourite, "you'd rather walk through a lion's den wearing a pork chop suit" 

No I've cooled off and decided a confrontation would be a disaster.
As for the ASBO Im sure her kids will have one before they're teenagers! 

That sounds like a good plan! 

I'd put a burning bag of doggy doo doo in the front porch.   

I'd put a burning bag of doggy doo doo in the front porch.   

he hee heee...I would except I live so close it would be just as bad for me!

I'd put a burning bag of doggy doo doo in the front porch.   

dude, that's my terrain!