Curious regarding when you see each other after time apart.

So, when you all get (got if you've done this before) to see your partner after a signifigant time apart.....do you have an adjustment period as far as getting comfortable with each other.

I use comfortable loosely be it physical or emotional.  When i see David for the first time he pretty much knows to let me sleep in the car and gives me an hour or so to adjust to being in England.....for some reason it's harder when i'm there because when he visits Boston i'm so excited i don't think of the weirdness.

In time this has mostly diminished but usually i just need a little time to myself to acclimate to the man i love who's yammering next to me and whom i haven't seen in forever.

It doesn't mean i love him less, it's just something i've heard other LDR people mention....the adjustment period.

Well, the last few visits it felt like we were picking up our conversation after a short trip to the ladies room or something...no adjustment period at all! But, to be frank, I have found it is always best to give eachother LOT'S of physical touching before actually, you know, getting serious? I think it is because our minds and souls communicate all the time, and at first I always just thought our bodies would be at the same level right off, but that didn't seem to be the case. But, like I said, the last few visits we seemed to acclimate to each other much more rapidly! It is sometimes like being in the Twilight Zone though, isn't it? Time differences...sleeping/eating/personal patterns all screwed up! It is wonderfully sweet though, the re-connecting circuitry. OH, I HAVE BEEN "HAPPILY" MISSING HIM SO MUCH THE PAST FEW DAYS! And we are back together in a bit more than two weeks...yeah, yeah, yeah!!!

My boyfriend and I were almost SHY with each other after our times apart and trust me, you would never use the word shy to describe either of us.

It was a cute shy... and amazement... "wow, we are seeing each other FINALLY."

And the physical aspect... well, its wild and fun filled and loving. 

with every visit, which was far and few...I would feel anxious...wondering and worrying if we would still feel that connection that seemed so normal for us on the computer daily... No matter how anxious I would become...the moment we would set eyes on each other, all that concern would disappear with that first sight...and Tom and I would feel as though it had just been yesterday that we were together and enjoying each others company.  it is normal to feel the what ifs after a long seperation...

Al and I usually go about 4-6 months without seeing other. And I don't know about him, but I always feel really nervous, like we're strangers meeting for the first time. It definitely takes me a minute to get adjusted.

The first two and a half years or so, it was definitely a huge occasion to be going to the airport to pick him up and seeing him and whatnot.  It took a day or two of adjustment. 

Now I think we sort of take it for granted.. as soon as we see each other it's sort of like, "aww.. hi "  As someone else said, we immediately pick up where we left off.  No shyness or awkwardness, and not even a big deal made of it. 

Maybe that's also because in the first few years, we went months on end (like 7 or between seeing each other, and then would only have a few weeks together.  Whereas now we spend months and months together, then only go like 3 weeks between another visit of half a year.  It would probably be more of an occasion and take more adjustment if we spent longer amounts of time apart.

I experienced this 'adjustment' period even when the DF and I lived in the same country but he was up north and I was near London. I even experience it a bit when one of us has just been away. A lot of it is just travel stress and tiredness. Espcially as our travels are either work or family related and involve their accompanying stresses.

I would expect that in a LDR, this could be even more magnified.

Did you see the SITC where Carrie had to educate her BF on how she needed quiet time when she got home from work? We all have our routines and ways of coping and adjusting. You just have to be able to recognize what you need, when you need it, and then make sure your other half knows it too!

YEs balmer!  I can see me having to explain quiet time to my future hubby.......i sometimes have to explain it to my roomates even.  sometimes i just want peace and rest and to veg....

Especially after traveling! You have people shoved down your throat for hours and hours on airplanes and in airports and trains, being elbow to elbow with complete strangers, weird sounds, strange people, funky scents. Sometimes all you really want is just to have your own space for a bit!

It's never been odd for Mark & I even from the very first time , it was like we'd always been together I must say that we always make it a point to stay in bed for the first 24 hours  & no not just for that reason but it's where we both love to be laying next to eachother and just talking while looking at eachother at the same time ( No Da*m phone!!) so when we have to part again thats the hardest part for both of us just the being close to each other  part ....
but sadly this has been the longest time we've been apart sense we met he was coming in April and he father fell Ill  very suddlenly ... they told him 3 weeks ago it was cancer and so very sadly to say he  passed away last week and let me tell you I'm dieing inside  :\\\'( I want so bad to be with Mark right now...
 I feel like some how I'm letting him down big time ..he tell's me I'm not and that it all happened so fast that there was no time to try to get there ....so now we have to wait to see when we can be together again , my kids still have school and he needs to be there with his Mum ..........so I'm so longing to see him and kiss him and lay close to him ..thats where my heart and soul is ....sorry if I got off track there................ I guess I'm lucky for I've never felt like I belonged anywere but in his arms 


Thanks for letting me babble

It is always strange for me being with my fiance again and being in England again but to be honest I don't need much adjustment time. I do get jet lag and end up getting really tired and want to sleep but sometimes I don't, sometimes I just wait until everyone else goes to bed. As for adjusting to my fiance again, it doesn't take long. As soon as I see him I talking about the flight and everything else. What bothers me though is when he first sees me after being apart for so long the only thing he can think about is sex. So while I'm being really talkative hes just sat there in the car looking at me all seductively, undressing me with his eyes. I for some reason don't get that way when I first see him, theres a time and a place for that and in the car with his MUM driving isn't the place lol.

it's funny i was looking through the last posts of this board and came across this that i posted ages ago

almost 2 years of marriage and i STILL get a bit weird when we're apart for a while!

it has been 10 days since i've seen him......and i am still a bit nervous about it!

It's funny. I was asking hubby about this...cause it takes me almost a week to loosen up if we been apart for long. But funny part is that he denies the whole thing. Think it might be a chick thing?

Aww Amy I think it's sweet you still get that feeling after all this time. 

I don't really have an adjustment period but everyone's different. I am just so happy to see him again when I get there, and to hug him. I do my babbling about the trip, then generally nod off from exhaustion on the way home. Things are usually pretty low key the first day we are together to adjust to the jet lag and all but other than that it feels like I never left when I am back in his arms again.

The first time after we started long distance it was a bit weird.. not awkward just a little weird for a little bit, maybe an hr or two...but only for me I think, not him. And since then there hasnt been any weirdness, we're straight into as if we'd never been apart.

It might be stranger for him though, as I lived over in the US, around where he lives for a year, whereas he's only ever here for around a week. He probably feels more of a visitor whereas I feel like im getting home to my second home