Thanks everyone.
David & I went to the embassy today to register philip, get his social security number, and get his US passport. While we were there we asked the lady who was helping us, and she said that if it was *her*, she wouldn't risk it. You just can't count on the person receiving you to be nice, and no proof is iron-clad. Just because you own a house in England, have a job from a company... doesn't mean you are going back. So that's 2 people from teh embassy saying exactly the same thing: don't risk it.
We're considering having me go over with Philip by myself, and DAvid just working through those 2 weeks. I dread getting on 2 long-haul flights with him... but saying that, he's a pretty perfect baby. We ust had him out and about for 9.5 hours straight, with lots of chaos on the trains, tube & embassy - and he didn't bat an eye. So who knows, I may go without David.

Still, he wishes he could come.
Also - I asked the embassy lady what would happen if he was denied on the US end, what effect would that have on his visa application? Her answer: no one knows. They could just go ahead and issue the visa no problem, or they could agree with the US official and think that we were trying to cheat the system, therby denying us our visa.
And HUGE hugs to you Brooke - I hope the embassy can work something out for you, I really do.