LDR-stresses and breakdowns

I am myself in a LDR relationship and my fiance lives in the States and I am in the UK, but was born in Germany. I can fully understand where you are coming from and it is hard. I feel really lonely myself and don't feel like I can talk to anyone about this. I tried yesterday and what I got was a comment and it was that I should just finish the relationship because it's just a lot of hassle. It really didn't help. lol   
Maybe one thing is good, at least you know at some stage you actually will be together because you are sorting your visa out etc. In my case it looks very grim and my chances of being with him are zero. I am sick and he doesn't know how to get here and I have asked around and it just looks so bleak and that's something you don't have. I have also poted a question here and no reply either so that should say something....
Keep hanging in there and I bet soon you'll have your next birthday with your man and I hope you'll be very happy together!!!

All the best!!!! Christin   xx   

Christin,
I am sorry to hear your are sick...and that it doesn't look like you and your man will be together anytime soon...Isn't he able to try for a visitor visa to come over and see you? Can he come over on the fiance visa? I am sorry that no one ever answered your question on here. It is very hard being in an LDR and I have had the same reaction that you have from other people...they say I should just end it why put up with all the stress...but I think it is because I believe that someday we will be together...well our visa app got refused. So we are back to square one for awhile at least...if you ever need to talk or vent or anything just PM me. There has to be a way for your man to come and see you and get to stay with you...

There is no disputing the fact that a long distance relationship is hard.  That said, how many other women (or men...) get to experience that thrill each time they see their partner coming through airport clearance?  It's one of my favorite moments on both ends!  I love that overwhelming feeling I get when I see him walk through with his suitcase and smile on, scanning the crowd trying to find me!  And vice versa!  After 8 hours on a plane, I have to try really hard to suppress the urge to tackle every one in my path! 

So, although most of us would give just about anything to be in a "normal" relationship with our partner all the time, I think we should all try to remember the little things that make our relationships unique and special!   

I love that overwhelming feeling I get when I see him walk through with his suitcase and smile on, scanning the crowd trying to find me!  And vice versa!  After 8 hours on a plane, I have to try really hard to suppress the urge to tackle every one in my path! 

Glad everyone has given you lots of support. I hope you can use my two pence:

I was in a LDR with my husband for 7.5 years before I moved here!!! We met when we were 17 and since he lived here in the UK it was soooo tough. We've had so many ups and downs, so many stupid fights because of the distance, heartache from missing one another and lonliness.  I know exactly how you feel! You miss seeing them, smelling them, snuggling, having a laugh, all the good things, and it hurts that you can't have that. I thought we would never ever be together so much during this time, and every time we tried to part ways we always came back to each other.  It was so hard, and I even tried to convince myself that I didn't love him at one point to try to move on Didn't work.   

But even though it was so hard and I spent most of that 7 and a half years apart from him the times we did spent together were amazing! We have made so many memories that we love to look back on and  still have a laugh about today. I always knew in my heart I wanted to  be with him and vice versa, just getting there was hard.  But like all things once you get the hard part done you get to enjoy everything you've worked for.

If you both know you want to be together, are willing to work for it, sacrifice things, and still be there for each other then it will work out. Getting to move here, be with him every day, go to bed every night, share a home, all these things I thought I would never get to do, but I now live it and am so glad that we've both endured!!  If you would've told me exactly a year ago that I would be here with him, doing what I am I wouldn't have believed you at all.

Life moves so fast and can change so quickly. I hope you get to be with your loved one soon. Lots of hugs and support, and if you need to chat pm me any time.
xoxo

Thank you so much Steph, Andee, and Lily....you are right about all the positive things about the relationship...I agree one of the best is meeting him at the airport at arrivals...it is the best feeling in the world...and yes I try to think of all the positives..that after a long hard fight to be together it will make us a stronger couple and the reward is getting to be with each other for the rest of our lives...things are going good now so far...we have had another little hiccup but we worked it thru and I think he is coming to visit me in January...I am just glad there is a place for people in our situation to go and talk about our relationships with people who understand...because your friends and family sometimes think you are crazy lol